The WANT Women: Jessamyn Stanley On Being Worthy From Top To Bottom

The WANT Women: Jessamyn Stanley On Being Worthy From Top To Bottom

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“Negative talk shows up in my life in the typical places – it’s at lunch with my college girlfriends, and in the locker room of the gym. It’s at work, with my coworkers. But you know where it isn’t? At my house, in my bedroom, in my heart, or on my yoga mat. And that’s all that matters.”

That’s when I knew for sure I’d fallen in Insta-love with Jessamyn Stanley.

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Western “yoga culture” elicits strong opinions and feelings from practitioners, teachers, and pop culture mavens who see it plastered on billboards and capitalized on in commercials as well as headlining summer tours and vacation retreats. Becoming a yoga teacher is now considered a lucrative and fulfilling career (as it should be!), and folks are now foregoing happy hour in order to get their flow on. Hippie-dippie festival gear is headlining the aisles at Target. Mats and mantras are being sold in the same strip malls as 7-Elevens.

And that’s not a bad thing. The more people who are open to yoga – whether it be a regular asana practice or simply a yogic lifestyle – the better. Like the food you choose to eat, yoga is a fluid concept that can be tailored to each individual’s life and lifestyle. And just like healthy eating is trending right now, so is yoga – and that inherently exposes more and more people to an aspect of life that isn’t just good for YOU, it’s good for the world AROUND you. We’re all just bouncing off each other’s energy waves, after all.

The problem with yoga as a pop culture phenomenon isn’t the yoga itself…it’s the generalizations and assumptions surrounding it. It used to be that yoga was just for the crunchy-granola set of the population. Not the case any more. It can sometimes seem like yoga is just about the gymnast poses and aerial acrobatics.

But the biggest problem and biggest yoga myth that’s out there? That yoga is just for one body type.

People like Jessamyn are the solution.

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As a yoga teacher, body positive advocate, writer, and all-around incredible human being, Jessamyn is all about yoga equality; about the fact that all yoga is accessible whether you’re a size 2 or size 22.

The majority of yoga photos we see – mostly of “advanced” poses – while aspirational, aren’t necessarily portrayed as accessible. The lack of diversity in yoga pop culture can be harrowing, making those who don’t fit into the stereotype believe by default that they’re unable to practice in a certain way, or lift themselves into picturesque poses without their curves or “girls” getting in the way (I know. I’ve been there). Jessamyn argues that yoga is not about being heavyset or rail thin, it’s about owning your body and getting to know yourself through that full range of self-expressed movement, whatever that looks like for you.

I was instantly drawn to Jessamyn for her honesty, humor, and wisdom. In general, yes (she’s one of those women you feel you know really well just by reading what they have to say, you know?) – but particularly on the subject of body image and self image. I’ve felt my own insecurities in my journey with yoga, thinking I “should” look a certain way in order to be able to practice at a certain “level.” Yet I soon learned it’s not about looking a certain way or being at a certain level. Levels + looks are fallacies. When it comes to TRUE yoga, your practice + purpose are what's real. Click To Tweet

Her blog and now-famous Instagram account (104K followers and counting, go girl!) feel like a belly laugh, breath of fresh air, sigh of relief, and kick in the pants all at once. Because Jessamyn speaks of observations, issues, experiences with such candor and grace. She’ll be cracking you up one second then reach a little crevice in your heart the very next. Jessamyn is not about perfection – she is about progress. Jessamyn isn’t about extremes – she’s about the journey. Jessamyn isn’t about unreachable – she is about what is fully attainable, as long as you reach out and try. It’s beyond an honor to be hosting this beauty on here today.

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Name: Jessamyn Stanley


How you’d know me: I’m a body positive yoga Teacher, Writer, Activist


What I love about myself (and why): I love my commitment to personal authenticity at all costs- that I actively strive to be myself at all times.


How/where negative talk shows up in my life: Negative talk shows up in my life in the typical places – it’s at lunch with my college girlfriends, and in the locker room of the gym. It’s at work, with my coworkers. But you know where it isn’t? At my house, in my bedroom, in my heart, or on my yoga mat. And that’s all that matters.


When I talk negatively about myself, it’s usually… when I’m disappointed in myself and my ego’s gotten in the way.


When others talk negatively about themselves… I am dismayed by the fact that our language can seep into each other’s lives simply by talking negatively about ourselves.


It baffles me that women still… can’t accept the role they play in the continuation of rape control by condoning slut shaming.


I wish that more women… recognized all parts of themselves as beautiful and worthy, from top to bottom.

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My top female role models: I am a big fan of many female athletes- I love Amanda Bingson and Serena Williams. I also love Beth Ditto and I’m constantly inspired by Kathryn Budig.


Men can help women crush their negative talk patterns by… being more open with themselves about their actual desires. I mean, if more men just admitted that they love to have sex with chubby women, imagine how they could boost overall female morale!


Favorite negativity-busting activity: You’re probably thinking “um, OBVIOUSLY SHE’D SAY THAT” but whatever- YOGA. YOGA. YOGA. It is the universe’s medicine.

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Fave self-love ritual: a DIY pedicure and full body scrub can work wonders for my mental health.


Favorite feel-good foods: Dried fruits, Coconut Water, Tater Tots


Favorite movies to watch when I’m feeling down: Love, Actually, Adventures in Babysitting, Shortbus


My feel-good playlist: It’s basically just Rachmaninoff symphonies with a few Kendrick Lamar songs thrown in.


Advice I would give my
…4 year old self: “Enjoy nap time. Just try to fucking appreciate it.”
…14 year-old self: “Yes, this is as good as it will ever get with boys.”
…24 year old self: “Don’t be defined by your relationships with other people. Define yourself by your own goals and dreams.”


5 Things, personal or professional, on my bucket list:
1. Learn to surf
2. See the northern lights.
3. Write my memoir.
4. Find out my genealogy and travel to the part of Africa where my family most likely originated.
5. Visit a Japanese cat café.

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My best tip on self love: Stop using other people’s opinions to define yourself. Figure out who you are and make peace with it.


Right now, I am most excited about… my fall yoga teaching schedule, because I will get to visit so many different places and meet so many different students and feel our internet borne yoga tribe bloom into a true mobile network.


My body is: a monster of epic proportions.


Three words to describe me: Curious, Relentless, Free


Current mantra: “Esse Quam Videri”- To Be Rather, Than To Seem

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Photos courtesy of @mynameisjessamyn
Cover photo credit Allie Mullin

Catch Jessamyn on her East Coast tour this Summer and Fall! Check out tour dates here – you don’t wanna miss this. Trust me.


 

 

The WANT Women: Gigi Yogini On Self Respect, Dress Size, and Being Unstoppable

The WANT Women: Gigi Yogini On Self Respect, Dress Size, and Being Unstoppable

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You deserve to be loved – and the best time to start is now. -@gigiyogini Click To Tweet

Yoga culture: let’s go there. Sure, yoga is a phenomenal way to get back in touch with your body or cultivate self love that lasts. Rolling out your mat, whether at home or in your favorite studio, can be like a homecoming. Emphasis on can.

I’ve been practicing yoga for over a decade, and in the last couple of years , I’ve watched it morph from a perceivably hippie-dippie ritual to a full-blown pop culture trend. And let me be clear – that is not an inherently bad thing. Yoga for all, I say! The more yogi-minded folks in this world, the better.

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However. Just like with other fitness classes and healthy food catchphrases, yoga has become a form of social clout, a way to prove a point or achieve Insta-star status. No truly honest conversation about yoga is complete without addressing the elephant in the room – the plethora of picture-perfect poses on social media and “power”-driven classes that can do more to intimidate than inspire. I’ve written about it before and I’m sure I’ll write about it again: if an “advanced practice” is all about the external display, it not only diminishes the real power of yoga – the internal work – but it can activate those negative voices in your head that say things like “You can’t do that class. You’re not strong enough. Fit enough. You don’t have a yoga body.”

Brigitte Kouba, better known as Gigi Yogini, is working to change all that.

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As one of yoga’s biggest body image advocates and body-positive pioneers, Gigi inspires people (especially women!) of every age, shape, size, and look to love their bodies exactly as they are.

Gigi is the woman behind YOGAudacious, a blog that diversifies the faces of yoga and shows what courage looks like from the inside out, as well as a co-founder the Yoga Body Image Coalition, an action-oriented community advocating the Body Positive cause. No body shaming or stereotype-filling allowed: she’s determined to create safe spaces for all body types and backgrounds to be their most courageous selves. Just try this video on for size:

All that bod-pos talk isn’t just lip service, either – she practices what she preaches, and infuses everything she does (from producing the video above to her writing on sites like MindBodyGreen and Elephant Journal) with a little more compassion and encouragement than it would normally have. Thankfully for us, Gigi’s in the process of building out her Secret Studio in Los Angeles, a safe haven she’s kept hush-hush for over three years (ps. it’s not so secret anymore). She’s now bringing other all-inclusive teachers and workshop leaders into the mix and keeping it by women, for women. You read that right: finally, a yoga studio that feeds our hunger for supportive, powerful female connection.

Gigi is a breath of fresh ocean air in the midst of mixed messages telling us what a “yoga body” should look like. She is badass. She is a force. She is making the yoga world a kinder place – and is the epitome of a WANT Woman, on and off the mat.

WANT Gigi.

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Name: Brigitte Kouba


How you’d know me (occupation or role): I’m a yoga teacher, better known as Gigi Yogini, who shares lots of posts, articles and videos about body positivity.


What I love about myself (and why): I love the fact that my imagination is wild and I have the audacity to chase my dreams…no matter how crazy they may seem.


What is your definition of “positivity?” Finding a way to weave gratitude into everything.


When did you start to love yourself – did you have a self-love “turning point?” I’ve had reoccurring awakenings all the time. Sometimes I get into a rut and then do something good for myself (like yoga, dance or take a bubble bath) and think to myself, “Oh yeah. This is what it feels like to love myself.”


How/where negative talk shows up in my life: Negative talk creeps into my life on the shoulders of regret and the underbelly of expectations.


When I talk negatively about myself, it’s usually…a result of following fear down a rabbit hole.


When others talk negatively about themselves…I realize how natural it is for all of us to speak unkindly about ourselves.


It baffles me that women still…try to fit into a narrow stereotype of beauty. I’ve found that self-respect and confidence are by far the most attractive qualities a woman can posses, regardless of dress size.


I wish that more women…could embrace what makes them unique and support each other rather than compete.
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The coolest thing about women is…our ability to manifest the miracle of life within our bodies. Even if women never have a child, they still have a magical power to manifest miracles in life.


My favorite way to shift a negative into a positive: is to stop, breathe deeply and repeat an affirmation.


My top female role models: First and foremost, my mom, Patricia Kouba, is a great role model. Also Oprah Winfrey, Michelle Obama, Tina Fey, Tyra Banks, Ellen Degeneres, Amy Purdy, and Kia Miller. Historically, Maya Angelou, Rosa Parks, Lucille Ball, Eleanor Roosevelt, Amelia Earhart, Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy, Susan B. Anthony, and Mother Teresa. I’m also inspired by any woman who has given birth, survived breast cancer, gotten out of an abusive relationship or cared for an aging parent or sick child. Every woman has the potential for being a positive role model. -@gigiyogini Click To Tweet


Men can help women crush their negative talk patterns by…complimenting women on non-physical qualities like intelligence, courage, strength, compassion, etc.


Favorite negativity-busting activity: spending quality time, laughing and goofing off with loved ones.


Fave self-love ritual: bubble bath with candles.


Favorite feel-good food(s): I always feel good when I eat quinoa and veggies. I also love banana or sliced apple with almond butter. Plus I adore dark chocolate because just a little is enough.


Favorite movie(s) to watch when I’m feeling down: Comedies or uplifting documentaries.


Favorite empowering book(s):
Autobiography of a Yogi – Paramahansa Yogananda
The Artist’s Way – Julia Cameron
The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho
The Cure – Dr. Timothy Brantley
The Tipping Point – Malcolm Gladwell
7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Stephen R. Covey
Way of the Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman


My feel-good playlist: includes anything that makes me want to move…because moving feels good!

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Advice I would give my…
…4 year old self: play more
…14 year-old self: breathe more
…24 year old self: dream more


5 Things, personal or professional, on my bucket list:
Raise a healthy family with my soon-to-be husband, Antonio Neves.
Build a Habitat for Humanity home.
Go on a silent retreat.
Bike across New Zealand.
Quit my coffee addiction.


My best tip on self love: You deserve to be loved – and the best time to start is now.


When I truly love all of myself…I am unstoppable.


Right now, I am most excited about…marrying the love of my life this summer.


My body is: brilliant and I am so grateful for all it does.


Three words to describe me: Curious, Compassionate, Authentic


Current mantra: I am grateful for all the growth opportunities in my life. I am Divinely guided and protected. I trust all things are happening for the greatest good of all.

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WANT Yourself:
In the comments, tell us what part of Gigi’s words of wisdom struck a chord with you (there were a lot of good ones!). What’s one thing you can do to show yourself love today?

Photo credit: Corinna Lander



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SHE SITS there staring, at what it doesn’t matter. A loose top by her side, you wonder why she doesn’t throw it on, she seems so cold. Her hands look placed and her head seems positioned.

He walks with his friends, laughing a little bit louder than the rest, his stride just the teeniest bit longer.

Look in the car next to you, quick glance, you see this porcelain doll of perfection in the righthand lane. And you see her hair and her tan and her manicured nails and brows and you honk to tease her. Because why not? There’s a pretty little thing next to you and grabs your heart but simple instinct protects you and tells you to egg her on a little, cause man is it fun! Grab her attention. And then she doesn’t look back and you keep going and she turns on the red light and by that time it’s too late to take back your advances because you didn’t notice before but she is crying.

This job leaves me in tears, this town is stale, this relationship is a one-sided fallacy. I’m not that fine today, how are you?

Covering up fear, covering up our desires, covering up our bodies and our truths with the show of the cool-calm-collected person we feel is the person to be. This is what it means to be the best.

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