WANTcast 050: Dealing With Jealousy + Wanting What You Don’t Have

WANTcast 050: Dealing With Jealousy + Wanting What You Don’t Have

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Reframing and reworking jealousy has been a GAME CHANGER for me. I’m highly sensitive, so jealousy isn’t just wanting what I don’t have: it’s also feeling BAD about wanting it, feeling GUILTY for spending time wanting it, and feeling like a lame person for focusing on it instead of focusing on “uplifting others.” It sends me into a shame spiral, and I don’t get anything done when I’m in a shame spiral.

There’ a saying that goes “Jealousy works the opposite way you want it to.” And it’s true: without a sense of control over your own jealousy, it pushes people away, squelches opportunity, and is one of the most effective forms of self-sabotage.

Yet learning to harness your jealousy can actually inform you of an important missing link, the most important element in any relationship.

On today’s episode, I’m going to share a few strategies that have worked for me. Find yourself prey to your own jealous mind? Here’s what to do.

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I Am Still Learning: On Leaving Your Job
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WANTcast 049: On Making Your Mess Your Message with Kate Van Horn

WANTcast 049: On Making Your Mess Your Message with Kate Van Horn

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May was Mental Health Awareness Month – but just because the month is over doesn’t mean we should stop talking about it. I can’t think of a better guest to remind us of this: someone who is a prime example of taking your pain and trauma and turning it into something that can help and empower others.

Kate Van Horn is a wellness blogger, yoga instructor and entrepreneur based in Philadelphia. Kate promotes health through mindful living, intuitive movement, food freedom and a body positive message. Kate is the co-founder of a wellness events business, The GOOD Festival, which hosts festivals, retreats and workshops nationally. Kate was recently names 1 of 25 Influential Women to Watch in Wellness by Yogiapproved.com and her story and writing have been featured in mindbodygreen, Yoga Digest and Thoughtfully Magazine.

After recovering from an eating disorder and experiencing childhood trauma, Kate chose to heal through community. She now shares her story with her audience in hopes of about building a community centered in authenticity and radical self love. (Kate is also a dog mom, lover of matcha lattes and anything “woo woo”, from crystals to astrology and tarot.)

This episode is AMAZING for anyone who wants to build a community of like-minded people sans the BS (whether in-person or online), interested in creating serial success instead of being a one-hit-wonder, loves wellness but is looking for a little more substance than what’s on-trend, is curious as to how wellness practices can ACTUALLY heal past wounds and trauma…and, speaking of trauma, anyone who has either experienced trauma in their past that might be holding them back, or knows someone who is still working through their own trauma and might not even recognize it.

So grateful to Kate for sharing so much of herself and being so willing to talk about some sensitive subjects. This is definitely one of my favorite episodes, not just of this season, but of all-time.

(Note: we do not go into graphic detail, but if you have experienced trauma or abuse, please be mindful that we DO talk about these subjects. We make sure we don’t speak in a triggering way, but everyone is different – you know yourself best.)


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Show Notes:
Website
Instagram
The GOOD Fest
Jessica Murnane on the WANTcast (and here!)
Katie Dalebout on the WANTcast
Talia Pollock on the WANTcast
Getting Curious by Jonathan Van Ness
Christina Rice
National Alliance on Mental Illness
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy



This episode of the WANTcast is so graciously sponsored by FabFitFun, the seasonal subscription box that includes full-sized beauty, fitness fashion and lifestyle products and TRULY DELIVERS. Use code WANT for $10 off your first box (so $39.99 for super-quality stuff…usually valued at $200, such a steal!) at fabfitfun.com

If you liked this show, make sure to sign up for The (Good) Word, weekly WANT tips, tools, and resources to shift around your negative self talk patterns. Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and leave a five-star review if you’re feeling it, so that iTunes knows to get it into people’s ears AND so that future guests can get excited when I approach them to be on the pod. All that stuff helps the algorythms and goes a long way, plus, I love knowing what you’re enjoying and why, so I can give you more of it!

WANTcast 048: Circumstantial Happiness

WANTcast 048: Circumstantial Happiness

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How many times throughout the week do we play the “If Only” game? Think: If only I had a higher budget, I could afford that apartment/car/clothing/etc. If only I had a tech team, I could crush the online game. If only I looked like that, I could avoid feeling like this. If Onlys hold us in a loop of constant longing; constantly believing that our happiness is way far out of reach.

Positive affirmations don’t cut it without a solid base to make them work. And for most of us, it’s marathon-level difficult to “affirmation” our way out of a feeling like worthlessness, shame, or lack that cuts super deep. If Onlys can get us feeling downer than down, and at their worst, stop us from taking any proactive action in our lives.

This episode is all about how to move PAST the If Onlys and get back on a proactive path that’s also pragmatic for where you are in this very moment.

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WANTcast 047: On White-Knuckling Through Life + Wellness Real-Talk with Talia Pollock of Party In My Plants

WANTcast 047: On White-Knuckling Through Life + Wellness Real-Talk with Talia Pollock of Party In My Plants

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Today’s guest is my dear friend Talia Pollock, blogger, holistic health coach, plant-based chef, comedian, and creator of Party In My Plants. Party In My Plants is a platform and podcast that proves to people that becoming happier and healthier doesn’t have to suck. Through her humorous and honest approach to healthy living, she inspires, instructs and empowers people to take small steps to transform their lives and take the HELL out of HEALTHY.

She’s currently writing her first cookbook, which will be published by Avery, an imprint of Penguin, and I could not be prouder to call her my pal. I’ve learned so much from her when it comes to engaging an audience, staying true to who you are, and making the serious stuff feel a lot more fun and accessible.

In this episode we talk the business side of podcasting/blogging/coaching and our advice to newbies, Talia’s plant party journey, our beef (or should I say, our tofu??) with the commodification of the wellness industry, the link between wellness pros and food or body images – and the stuff to be mindful of if that IS your story (it was with me), and so much more. I had so much fun with her and was on a high for the rest of the day, and know you will be too. Here’s Talia!

WANT Talia:

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This episode of the WANTcast is so graciously sponsored by FabFitFun, the seasonal subscription box that includes full-sized beauty, fitness fashion and lifestyle products and TRULY DELIVERS. Use code WANT for $10 off your first box (so $39.99 for super-quality stuff…usually valued at $200, such a steal!) at fabfitfun.com

If you liked this show, make sure to sign up for The (Good) Word, weekly WANT tips, tools, and resources to shift around your negative self talk patterns. Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and leave a five-star review if you’re feeling it, so that iTunes knows to get it into people’s ears AND so that future guests can get excited when I approach them to be on the pod. All that stuff helps the algorythms and goes a long way, plus, I love knowing what you’re enjoying and why, so I can give you more of it!

WANTcast 046: I Make Money Moves (How To Not Freak Out Over Your Bank Account)

WANTcast 046: I Make Money Moves (How To Not Freak Out Over Your Bank Account)

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It’s very likely that if the thought of checking your bank account balance makes you break out in cold sweats, you’ve got quite a few people around you who are reinforcing this. Family, friends, coworkers, media personalities, Money Shame is everywhere. Just like Casual Negativity, money problems can be a way of bonding with others: commiserating over how expensive something is or how you really can’t afford such-and-such or UGH taxes amiright??

It can be a relief to know that you’re not alone…but it can also be damaging if you’re not devising a game plan to shift into a more positive and proactive reality. Here are some tools to break out of financial fears, shift into a rich mentality, and stay…shall we say…ACCOUNTABLE.

Let’s talk about CENTS, baby. Or for a more current pop culture pun…LET’S MAKE MONEY MOVES!


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*I really, really wanted to insert some sort of Cardi B audio into this episode. Ideally a clip of Bodak Yellow, which I admit I thought was called “Money Moves” up until about a month ago. Even a strategically placed “Okurrr” would have been fine by me. But that shit’s illegal…and maybe it’s just me, but I don’t feel like getting arrested over copywright infringement today. Thanks for understanding :)

*Need this episode in a bookmark-able version? Read it here: How To Not Freak Out Over Your Bank Account


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WANTcast 045: On Switching Gears + Embracing Your You-ness with Rachel Winard of Soapwalla

WANTcast 045: On Switching Gears + Embracing Your You-ness with Rachel Winard of Soapwalla

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Rachel Winard is the founder of Soapwalla, a indie skincare brand based in Brooklyn that prides itself on being pure, effective and trustworthy. The all-female company is based in Gowanus in a converted canning factory – so cool. After discovering that she had systemic lupus (an autoimmune illness that led to skin irritations), Rachel started creating products that wouldn’t irritate her skin. Today Soapwalla is a globally sold and recognized brand, and truly one of the OGs when it comes to the world of natural beauty. Soapwalla is proudly an LGBTQ-run business, an active advocate of gay and women’s rights, and works on getting customers involved too.

In this episode we talk about Rachel’s crazy and unexpected career journey from the arts to where she is now, how to advocate for a more inclusive and just world in both business and life, our mutual love for kind of unexpected things (like dinosaurs) and so much more. She is such a calming force and at the same time, so bright and effervescent – a friend of mine likes to say that certain people are like the “bubbles in champagne” and that’s definitely the case with Rachel.

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