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WANTcast Episode 111: Building Healthy Body Image with Helen Phelan

WANTcast Episode 111: Building Healthy Body Image with Helen Phelan

by Katie the WANTcast
This episode is for anyone and everyone who wants to rework their relationship with their body – maybe after years’ worth of body-shaming the skin you’re in. Helen Phelan is a ... Read more
August 24, 2020August 24, 2020 Tagged: body neutrality, helen phelan, WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

by Katie the WANTcast
Most podcasts are just interviews OR solo episodes…cue that  song from Sweet Charity: there’s gotta be something OTHER than this! Don’t get me wrong, we LOVE interviews and solo episodes ... Read more
August 14, 2020August 14, 2020 Tagged: creativity, daigi-ann thompson, spoken word, WANTcast Comment
The Self-Talk Shift For When You’re Feeling Behind Everyone Else In Life

The Self-Talk Shift For When You’re Feeling Behind Everyone Else In Life

by Katie Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools
True or False: I’m able to distance myself from what other people are doing and avoid the comparison trap. Maybe you think I’m not affected by ‘what other people are ... Read more
August 2, 2020August 2, 2020 4 Comments
WANTcast Episode 109: Do The Best With What You’ve Got And The Best For What’s Next

WANTcast Episode 109: Do The Best With What You’ve Got And The Best For What’s Next

by Katie the WANTcast
A negative self-talk loop is when the demeaning and degrading story we tell ourselves about ourselves or our life not only plays on repeat in our brain, but leads to even more ... Read more
July 31, 2020 Tagged: WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 108: The Life-Changing Power Of Turning Off Your Notifications with Kelsey Patel

WANTcast Episode 108: The Life-Changing Power Of Turning Off Your Notifications with Kelsey Patel

by Katie the WANTcast
Burnout and overwhelm are timeless and can show up any time, any where, around any THING. Kelsey Patel is one of Hollywood’s leading wellness and reiki experts, as well as ... Read more
July 24, 2020July 24, 2020 Tagged: burnout, kelsey patel, overwhelm, reiki, WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 107: Feeling Myself, Feeling Myself

WANTcast Episode 107: Feeling Myself, Feeling Myself

by Katie the WANTcast
Take a cue from Queen Bey and Nicki – this episode of the WANTcast is all about the power of touch and how it affects your body image. If you’re ... Read more
July 11, 2020 Tagged: body image, WANTcast Comment
Feeling Myself: On Touch + Body Image

Feeling Myself: On Touch + Body Image

by Katie Body Most Popular Posts
Jessica Rabbit once famously said, “I’m not bad, I’m just drawn that way.” Self-talk isn’t inherently good or bad, positive or negative – it’s all information. It’s how we view ... Read more
July 9, 2020August 2, 2020 Tagged: body image, body neutrality, body positivity, tools Comment
Taking Your Self Off The Sidelines: Why Shifting Your Self-Talk Matters.

Taking Your Self Off The Sidelines: Why Shifting Your Self-Talk Matters.

by Katie Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
I first conceived of WANT: Women Against Negative Talk back in 2007. It was born out of my own personal pain, and my own simultaneous a-ha moments that a) conscious ... Read more
July 3, 2020July 3, 2020 Tagged: activism, change, community, inspiration, motivation, self image, self worth, self-talk Comment
WANTcast Episode 106: How To Get Yourself Off The Sidelines (Via Your Self Talk)

WANTcast Episode 106: How To Get Yourself Off The Sidelines (Via Your Self Talk)

by Katie the WANTcast
How does your self-talk hold you back from taking action in your life? How does that affect the world around you? In this episode, we talk about why shifting your ... Read more
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WANTcast Episode 105: Going Beyond Diversity with Carrie Kholi-Murchison

WANTcast Episode 105: Going Beyond Diversity with Carrie Kholi-Murchison

by Katie the WANTcast
Dr. Carrie Kholi-Murchison is a critical thinker, writer, entrepreneur, and growth strategist with 10+ years experience defining brands and gathering and growing communities, and is currently Whole30’s Director of People ... Read more
June 12, 2020June 12, 2020 Tagged: carrie kholi-murchison, WANTcast Comment

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Don’t stop at the bedazzlement. The reflection’s where the gold’s at 💫 Remember to take some time for BOTH today.

words by mary oliver, image by @onbeing 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #maryoliver #makeshifthappen
@ohhappydani said it best👏🏼 💛 Follow her @ohhappydani said it best👏🏼 💛 Follow her account for phenomenal, poignant illustrations. And take her cue by creating a cycle of ACTION. 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself
Self-forgiveness is a vital part of goal-setting ( Self-forgiveness is a vital part of goal-setting (and achieving!). Love this reminder by @selfcarespotlight ✨

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #grace #forgiveness #selfkindness
2021: the year we all become our own heroes 💛✨

#selftalk #newyearnewview #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself 📷 @lnspirationalwomen
May 2021 bring you that kind of love and happiness May 2021 bring you that kind of love and happiness that’s only describable via four-letter words 💛💥

🎨 by @timothygoodman, h/t @jonathanfields 

#happynewyear #2021 #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself
✨ What doors will you step through this year? ✨

Instagram has a way of generalizing thoughts and experiences so I’m not gonna lie and say ALL doors have something feel-good on the other side.

And yet.

How will you EVER know, in this one life you’ve got, if you never even try? 

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to get to the end of my life, look behind me, and see a long hallway lined with locked-tight doors. Life is meant to be lived, and doors are meant to be used🚪🗝

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #newbeginnings
Life is lived one step at a time, not in one giant Life is lived one step at a time, not in one giant leap. Always remember that you are right on time ✨💛 

📷 via @letsmend 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #onestepatatime
The difference you make becomes the difference som The difference you make becomes the difference someone else makes, all because of the difference someone once made that inspired you to make a difference 💛

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk

👉🏼For more tips, tools, motivation + inspiration to shift your self talk, join the WANT movement at womenagainstnegativetalk.com. Link in profile ✨
Remember: you do not need to do anything extraordi Remember: you do not need to do anything extraordinary to BE extraordinary. You are a miracle and you belong. It’s okay if by the end of the day, “all you’ve done” is existed. Because your existence is exactly what the world needs 💛 image by the talented @alyseruriani 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #mentalhealth
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MAKING A CHANGE STARTS WITH MAKING A CHOICE Seems MAKING A CHANGE STARTS WITH MAKING A CHOICE

Seems simple, no? Making a change starts by making a choice. One small choice. Whether it’s walking west instead of north and choosing to step in another direction, to starting that podcast you’ve always talked about starting by actually signing up for a hosting account. No change ever began without one single choice.

But. And.

One Small Choice isn’t always that easy to make. Where do I start? Which choice is the MOST important? I’ve been making other choices for so long...does this mean I need to give those up? Ok, I know the choice to make...but now how do I DO it??

Oof. Choice resistance is REAL.

Feeling overwhelmed, underwhelmed, or just plain whelmed (name that movie 📽) about making a change right now? I get it. That’s why you should sign up for my REFLECTIONS + PROJECTIONS workshop this weekend, where (among lots of other things), you’ll learn how to identify the small choices you’ll need to make right now to reach your goals, no matter how far off.

(We’ll also talk about all that negative self-talk that gets in between us and our goals, which you know I love talking about 🤓)

RSVP via link in bio 🔗 Tickets are limited so we can keep it intimate. See you there??

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #2021goals
📣✨📣✨📣✨📣 I’m hosting my signat 📣✨📣✨📣✨📣

I’m hosting my signature New Years workshop, REFLECTIONS + PROJECTIONS, this Sunday 1/17 at 2pm!

Do you NEED another “new year new you” workshop? Nope. This isn’t even remotely trying to be that. I’m betting you’re feeling either overwhelmed, underwhelmed, or just plain MEH about that by now.

New Year, Same You.
New Year, New *VIEW.*

In this 2hr workshop, we’ll dive in and dig deep to create a vision for 2021 that you can be proud of — AND follow through on.

In this workshop, you'll:

✨ Reflect on 2020's ups and downs, and learn how to use each to craft your 2021

✨ Walk away with tools and strategies to revisit year-round to keep you on track and accountable - and also help you pivot if necessary

✨ Set goals that are actually achievable

✨ Learn why "someday" isn't all that bad - and how to create far-off goals without feeling discouraged along the way

✨ Examine your self-talk to create a positive, proactive narrative when times are tough

...and more!

DETAILS:

🕑: Sunday, January 17th 2021
2-4pm EST / 11-1pm PST
📍: Zoom (link will be sent out within 24 hours of the event)
💸: pay what you can at 3 different pricing options: $22-$26-$30

RSVP via link in bio or story swipe-up!

The world needs your voice and the world needs your growth. It all stems from the story you tell yourself, about your Self. I can’t wait to make shift happen with you.

Space is limited so RSVP now 🎉 and SHARE with anyone else who might want to join. This is my FIRST public event in 4 months and I’m so excited to get back at it with you!!!

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #newyearnewview
ON SEEING IS BELIEVING vs BELIEVING IS SEEING... ON SEEING IS BELIEVING vs BELIEVING IS SEEING...

Been thinking about this disconnect all day. All month. All four years.

Believing. Seeing.

There are shadow sides to each.

The shadow of the first: when people must need to see the worst of the worst to believe it’s possible.

EXAMPLE: 
Face-📚 must witness an insurrection of the U.S. Capitol in order to ban 🍊 from their platform, instead of believing it “could go this far” and stop giving him a platform for amplification sooner.

The shadow of the second: when people believe a self-determined truth despite actually seeing the exact opposite — and choosing to turn away no matter how much evidence is presented otherwise.

EXAMPLE:
Anti-😷ers believing their freedoms are being stripped from them and that 🍺🦠 is a hoax, or Q people believing in conspiracy theories and antisemetic canards — and then finding others who share that view and using them as proof of their beliefs being truths.

And still, there are people pulling the classic victim-blame spin (or Taylor Swift lyric) on this, something seemingly SO un-spinable, of “look what you made me do.”

Why is it we have such a hard time believing when it actually matters and is for the greater good and could prevent harm, and yet we have such an easy time believing all the shit that spewed that’s meant to keep us all down except a ⚪️ minority?

2021 and beyond: the time to mindfully and critically see and believe. 

Especially when it feels hardest to do so.

Then follow up with action. 

Otherwise it’s just blurred vision and wobbly beliefs.

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IMAGES by the following brilliant artists and activists: 
Johnniest Johnny tweet: @glennondoyle 
Stacey Abrams quote illustration: @rickfrausto 
New admin, same systemic issues illustration: @chalkandleaves
(^go follow them all and be sure to credit them if you share 💛)
✨ GIVE YOUR GOALS ROOM TO GROW 🌱 Timelines a ✨ GIVE YOUR GOALS ROOM TO GROW 🌱

Timelines aren’t necessarily a bad thing: they help keep us accountable, they give us a clear end point to strive toward, and they can help us plan how we’ll get there. 

And.

Timelines become an issue when you become less concerned with HOW, WHAT, and WHY you reach your goals and more interested in WHEN AND WHERE you reach your goals.

Sometimes both can coexist: you reach your goals quickly and zero substance is sacrificed. But don’t be surprised if one will have to be sacrificed for the other.

It’s your call: what’s more important to you, speed or substance? 👀

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #goals
✨New Year, New VIEW. ✨ Less GUILT. More GROWT ✨New Year, New VIEW. ✨

Less GUILT. More GROWTH.

Less DOUBTING. More DOING.

Less FEAR. More FAITH.

I’ve held so much back for so long. Years. Decades. Maybe a lifetime?

EXAMPLE: I always said I was “multi passionate” but truthfully, I only acted on the passions that fit nicely into my career path. Because, you know, “do what you love for a living and you’ll never work a day in your life.” (That’s bullshit, btw. Work is always work and even the stuff you love the most requires hard work to actually earn you a living)

It took 2020 to make me realize that I wasn’t actually being “multipassionate” in my day-to-day life. That I’ve been living a Strategy-First, Passion-Second life.

Why? Guilt. Doubt. Not thinking it “really mattered, anyway.” Or I’d get to it later.

And now I know that life is just too damn short. There is no later, folks. NOW is the LATER you dreamed about yesterday.

The strategy part is important, don’t get me wrong...but how many of us stay there way past our welcome?

𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗟𝗢𝗡𝗚 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗛𝗘𝗟𝗗 𝗕𝗔𝗖𝗞?

Whatever your answer, I will say these two things:

1️⃣ IT MAKES SENSE THAT YOU HAVE.
and
2️⃣ YOU CAN CHANGE THAT RIGHT NOW.

We live within systems that benefit greatly from our negative self-talk and poorly written stories. Society would LOVE for you to keep telling yourself the story of your shame, your guilt, your self-doubt and your defeat. It would love for you to stay silent and small. It would love to keep steering you far from who you are and discouraging your growth. How else would it convince you that you’re a broken thing that needs to BUY, LIKE, and FOLLOW in order to be fixed?

But the great thing is, you’ve always had the power to make shift happen. They might not want you to believe in your power, but it’s always been the truth. 

𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗚𝗘𝗧 𝗡𝗘𝗪 𝗬𝗘𝗔𝗥, 𝗡𝗘𝗪 𝗬𝗢𝗨.
𝗡𝗘𝗪 𝗬𝗘𝗔𝗥, 𝗦𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗬𝗢𝗨. 
𝗡𝗘𝗪 𝗬𝗘𝗔𝗥, 𝗡𝗲𝘄 𝗩𝗜𝗘𝗪.

The world needs your voice, and the world needs your growth. It all stems from the story you tell yourself, about your Self ✨

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
📷 @reneechoiphotography 

👉🏼 𝘓𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵? 𝘚𝘏𝘈𝘙𝘌 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥!
👆🏼This is the energy I’m bringing with me 👆🏼This is the energy I’m bringing with me into the new year — nay, the rest of my life:

“BECAUSE IT BRINGS ME JOY” is a valid reason.

👉🏼 You do not need to do something only if it’s linked to your career goals.

👉🏼 You do not need to do something only if you have a 5-year plan.

👉🏼 You do not need to do something only if it’s meant to lead to something else.

JOY is reason enough.

Share to spread the word ✨

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
WHAT IS YOUR CRITERIA for ✨VALUE?✨ How do you WHAT IS YOUR CRITERIA for ✨VALUE?✨

How do you know something provides value to you? How do you know it’s valuable?

Often we’ll say things like “well, they must not like me, because they don’t text me often.” Or “they must not like this post I shared, because they didn’t like or comment.” Or “they must not think I’m very good, because they don’t ask for my help.”

But think about the things YOU find value in.

How do YOU know you find value?

Is it because you feel like commenting, texting, or showing some sort of external display? Is that how you *know*?

Or do you know because of reasons that are less visible?

Like the NYC subway system, does the value live under the surface — visible for small stretches in certain boroughs but mostly buried deep within an intricate system that gets you to and from wherever it is you hope to go?

Some food for thought this AM ✨

Tell me in the comments: how do YOU personally know something is of value to you? How does your body/mind/heart feel? What happens? Why are things “of value” important to you? Help me understand 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
_______

📷 from one of my many adventure runs around the city in 2020. 5th Av, NRW line, one of the most underrated subway lines IMO, if an “under/overrated subway line” is even a thing.

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
A POEM. AN ODE. A TOAST. Here’s to you 💛🥂 A POEM. AN ODE. A TOAST.

Here’s to you 💛🥂✨

“Here’s to the women
Who lift each other up
instead of
Drag each other down.

Here’s to the women
Who aren’t too cool to snort-laugh,
Who aren’t too guarded to show their whole souls,
Who aren’t too scared to lead the way by
being vulnerable.

Here’s to the women
Who fight the good fight,
Every Damn Day
For other women to feel just as seen and heard
As they deserve to be.

Here’s to the acquaintances,
The besties,
The soulies,
And the strangers
Who delight in giving compliments,
Not critiques.

Here’s to the woman
Who bares her soul and tells her truth
But never at the expense of others
And certainly not at the expense of herself.

Here’s to the women,
Every Single Woman,
Because only together
Are we able to
Move Forward Fearlessly.”

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk

**if you like, SHARE to toast to the women in your life, too 🥂✨
ON SUCCESS YOU CAN’T SEE... We have no way of k ON SUCCESS YOU CAN’T SEE...

We have no way of knowing what’s around the corner. There are literally hundreds of thousands of stories out there of people who almost gave up right before their “big break,” or never got to see the fruits of their life’s labor - but man did they make a difference.

I’m obsessed with the story of Van Gogh, for example, who only sold one painting in his lifetime. He never got to see his success...but maybe his success wasn’t meant to be seen in his own lifetime...

Success you can’t see is scary (“Does what I do really matter?”), but it’s also kind of empowering. Success you can’t see is what drives us to be fully and completely self-expressed, for how will we know if we don’t even try?

If you’re one of those people who believes we are all put on Earth for a reason – and I for sure am one of those people who believes we are all put on Earth for a reason – then we must let ourselves fully and completely live on purpose, and look for the little signs telling us we’re doing the thing that’s in our DNA to do (or at least on the right track). We see only one star in the dark night and confuse it for a lack of sky, when instead we should be taking it as proof that there’s a huge universe out there filled with way more stars that we can imagine ✨

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #successquotes
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Don’t stop at the bedazzlement. The reflection’s where the gold’s at 💫 Remember to take some time for BOTH today.

words by mary oliver, image by @onbeing 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #maryoliver #makeshifthappen
@ohhappydani said it best👏🏼 💛 Follow her @ohhappydani said it best👏🏼 💛 Follow her account for phenomenal, poignant illustrations. And take her cue by creating a cycle of ACTION. 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself
Self-forgiveness is a vital part of goal-setting ( Self-forgiveness is a vital part of goal-setting (and achieving!). Love this reminder by @selfcarespotlight ✨

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #grace #forgiveness #selfkindness
2021: the year we all become our own heroes 💛✨

#selftalk #newyearnewview #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself 📷 @lnspirationalwomen
May 2021 bring you that kind of love and happiness May 2021 bring you that kind of love and happiness that’s only describable via four-letter words 💛💥

🎨 by @timothygoodman, h/t @jonathanfields 

#happynewyear #2021 #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself
✨ What doors will you step through this year? ✨

Instagram has a way of generalizing thoughts and experiences so I’m not gonna lie and say ALL doors have something feel-good on the other side.

And yet.

How will you EVER know, in this one life you’ve got, if you never even try? 

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to get to the end of my life, look behind me, and see a long hallway lined with locked-tight doors. Life is meant to be lived, and doors are meant to be used🚪🗝

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #newbeginnings
Life is lived one step at a time, not in one giant Life is lived one step at a time, not in one giant leap. Always remember that you are right on time ✨💛 

📷 via @letsmend 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #onestepatatime
The difference you make becomes the difference som The difference you make becomes the difference someone else makes, all because of the difference someone once made that inspired you to make a difference 💛

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk

👉🏼For more tips, tools, motivation + inspiration to shift your self talk, join the WANT movement at womenagainstnegativetalk.com. Link in profile ✨
Remember: you do not need to do anything extraordi Remember: you do not need to do anything extraordinary to BE extraordinary. You are a miracle and you belong. It’s okay if by the end of the day, “all you’ve done” is existed. Because your existence is exactly what the world needs 💛 image by the talented @alyseruriani 

#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #mentalhealth
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