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Waiting On A New Normal: Navigating Your Mindset When You Feel In-Limbo.

Waiting On A New Normal: Navigating Your Mindset When You Feel In-Limbo.

by Katie Community Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
(****really important note: this is not a post about waves or policies. this is about what you might be experiencing internally — a feeling stuckness or waiting, despite “logically knowing” ... Read more
April 5, 2022April 28, 2022 Tagged: burnout, inspiration, motivation, uncertainty 1 Comment
Laughable Plans: Finding Control When There Feels Like None.

Laughable Plans: Finding Control When There Feels Like None.

by Katie Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
If you Google search “top 10 most stressful life events,” there are a few repeat offenders that pop up on list after list. Death of a loved one. Marriage. Divorce. ... Read more
February 10, 2022March 28, 2022 Tagged: control, motivation, uncertainty Comment
I Will Still Do Well: Reimagining Goal-Setting When You’re In The Middle Of Burnout

I Will Still Do Well: Reimagining Goal-Setting When You’re In The Middle Of Burnout

by Katie Community Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
There’s this one old Oprah video from 1986 I’ve become obsessed with over the last few years. I’ve watched it so many times I have it memorized and tattooed onto ... Read more
January 10, 2022 Tagged: burnout, goal setting Comment
Mistake Resilience: How To Recover From A Case of “I Should Have Known Better”

Mistake Resilience: How To Recover From A Case of “I Should Have Known Better”

by Katie Community Love Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools Work
Do you ever have those things that happen where you’re like, “Ugh, why did I do that?! I should have known better” ?? Like… …Forgetting to add the salt in ... Read more
November 12, 2021February 22, 2022 Tagged: making mistakes, mistake resiliency, resilience, tips, tools Comment
You’ll Love It When You’re Older: On Ageism, Bias, and Covertly Dangerous Compliments

You’ll Love It When You’re Older: On Ageism, Bias, and Covertly Dangerous Compliments

by Katie Body Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
I got exposed to ageism at a very early age in a very odd way: by getting told incessantly how much younger I looked than I actually was. Immediately followed ... Read more
November 10, 2021November 11, 2021 Tagged: ageism, compliments Comment
133: The Power of Intuitive Business, Mental Health + Connecting The Dots In Your Life with Michelle Pellizzon of Holisticism

133: The Power of Intuitive Business, Mental Health + Connecting The Dots In Your Life with Michelle Pellizzon of Holisticism

by Katie the WANTcast
This back-from-unexpected-hiatus (…I’ll explain in the first 5 minutes) episode is JAM-PACKED with goodness right from the very start. From mental health and getting a diagnosis as an adult to ... Read more
November 5, 2021November 8, 2021 Tagged: michelle pellizzon, WANTcast 1 Comment
Here’s How To Help Someone You Love Shift Their Negative Self-Talk

Here’s How To Help Someone You Love Shift Their Negative Self-Talk

by Katie Community Love Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools
I’ll never forget the way my dad looked at me when he said: You have so much to be proud of. I wish you could see it. My heart breaks ... Read more
September 30, 2021October 8, 2021 Tagged: community, relationships, tips, tools Comment
Have You Updated Your OS Lately?

Have You Updated Your OS Lately?

by Katie Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration Tips + Tools
“I think I’m an Apple person. Yep, I’ve decided it. I’m switching out everything.” This was my husband, about a month ago. My PC-using, iPhone-carrying husband, tired of multiple brands ... Read more
September 1, 2021September 4, 2021 Tagged: change, habits, inspiration, motivation Comment
How To Let Go Of…Whatever It Is You Want To Let Go Of, Really.

How To Let Go Of…Whatever It Is You Want To Let Go Of, Really.

by Katie Community Love Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools
(…or, at the very least, how to get started.) Doesn’t it sound sexy and badass to say what you’re STOPPING, QUITTING, or LEAVING BEHIND? I know it does. I’ve done ... Read more
July 31, 2021August 20, 2021 Tagged: change, letting go, tips Comment
Giving Selective F***s.

Giving Selective F***s.

by Katie Community Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration Tips + Tools
**Heads up: this post about people-pleasing, being defensive, and setting boundaries contains mature language, specifically, f***, a lot. I know we don’t censor our language on the WANTcast and WANT ... Read more
July 14, 2021 Tagged: defensive, people pleasing, self doubt Comment

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"I used to fear hearing 'Who do you think you are' "I used to fear hearing 'Who do you think you are' or 'You must be pretty full of yourself.' Now, I WORK at being full. I want to be so full I am overflowing. And what you see is a woman so full that I have enough to share with everybody else. I'm going to own the fullness without ego, without arrogance, and with immense gratitude that I am female on the planet and I have the great pleasure and freedom to fill MYSELF up." ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ — @oprah, of course ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Committing to owning this season of my life with pride and fullness. “I want to be so full that I am overflowing” — that’s heckin’ right I do. So full, in fact, that I can share it with everyone else, whenever they need it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Cheers to filling ALL our cups, individually and collectively. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💛✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #selftalkmatters (and yes, you’ve seen me post this quote before. what can I say — it’s always right on time)
Setting intentions for your week? THIS 🆕 POST I Setting intentions for your week? THIS 🆕 POST IS FOR YOU… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s all good to tell yourself things like “I will experience joy this week” or “I am open to receiving what the universe has in store for me”… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗷𝗼𝘆? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (And no, "I just know" isn't an answer here 😏) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Is it a feeling in your body? Your head? Your heart? Do you feel relaxed? Energized? Tense? Loose? Do you do or say certain things?  What does your body language look like? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Knowing how you want to be is important, peeps. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ AND, SO IS KNOWING HOW YOU KNOW. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Why? Because when you know how you know you're where you want to be, you'll not only have a much easier time appreciating the moment you're in — but you’ll eventually become better at getting back in alignment when things feel off-center. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Me? This week, I’m going to SEIZE THE MOMENT. And the way I’ll know I’m seizing the moment is that when I am, I’ll feel energized and determined, and my voice will have that special kinda ✨sparkle✨ in it. (Kinda like the sparkle in my spirit when it’s sunny outside and I’m drinking a @lacolombecoffee Tan Line with Draft Oat Chai. IYKYK 🙃). Point is — I will KNOW. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What’s your intention for the week, and how will you know you’re experiencing it? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨☕️ #WANTyourself #womenagainstnegativetalk #selftalk #selftalkmatters #intentionsetting #intentionallife #mindsetshift #wordsmatter #affirmationoftheday #selflove #negativeselftalk #weeklymotivation
THINGS I DOUBT when SELF-DOUBT-Y-NESS TAKES HOLD: THINGS I DOUBT when SELF-DOUBT-Y-NESS TAKES HOLD: My social skills My professionalism My bravery My athleticism My voice My follow-through My appearance My importance THINGS I FEEL CONFIDENT IN when CONFIDENCE TAKES HOLD: My ability to connect My vision My courage My strength My words My determination My beauty My ability to make an IMPACT If I dig deep down behind my own self-doubt, it’s all about a lack of groundedness and losing my footing in who I am. And because of the nature of self-doubt — the fact that it needs something to latch onto and question — I've learned something really important. YOU CANNOT DOUBT WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE. For example…just go with me here…I can't doubt my skills as an archaeologist, because I HAVE no skills as an archaeologist. But I CAN doubt my skills as a writer, because I AM a writer. 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀: 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 *𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿* 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗧𝗙 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲. Something I’m keeping in the front of my mind, especially right now. Because there’s no time to let self-doubt rule my days. Because I know that the more I doubt myself, the less likely I am to, as Angela Davis said, “act as if it were possible to radically transform the world, and do it all the time.” It is ALL connected. So, question — what do you doubt when self-doubt takes hold...and what version of that do you feel confident in when confidence takes hold? I’d love to hear. Feel free to steal some of mine above. The bravery-courage one is my fave 💛✨ #WANTyourself #womenagainstnegativetalk #selftalk #selftalkmatters #mentalhealthmonth #selfdoubt #selfconfidence #takingaction #makeshifthappen (screenshot via @goodreads)
THIS... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How many times THIS... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How many times have you surrendered your joy without realizing it? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How many times have you... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ → Stuck with a job that depleted you because it was once your dream? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ → Kept doing a thing you didn’t really want to because you’d already invested so much money/time/resources into it? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ → Stayed in a romantic relationship (or even a close friendship) that was dragging you down because it was great at some point in the past? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ → Continued to speak beliefs you actually didn’t believe anymore, just because that what you’ve always said and always done - or how you’ve always been expected to be? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This quote by @cherylstrayed nails it. You are allowed to evolve. Gosh I hope you live a life where you evolve many, many times. And, I hope you honor your evolution by making whatever comes after I AM something that reflects the present moment — not a relic from the past simply because it was once true. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #cherylstrayed #tinybeautifulthings #dearsugar #lifeadvice #hsp #phenomenal #joyfulliving #selfrespect #selfcompassion #mindfulnessquotes #selflove #selftrust #impostersyndrome #multipassionate #authorsofig #selftalkmatters
✨ 5 END-OF-WEEK REMINDERS I WISH I’D HEARD AT ✨ 5 END-OF-WEEK REMINDERS I WISH I’D HEARD AT THE BEGINNING OF THE WEEK: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1️⃣ Moments of ease don’t always come easily — especially if things haven’t felt “ease”-y for a while. Give yourself the grace and space to transition into another way of being. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2️⃣ Actual self-care is a very different thing than PERFORMANCE of self-care — no amount of veggies or supplements or workouts or journaling can override a lack of self-acknowledgement and self-respect. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3️⃣ Good things take time, and then they don’t — and then they do again! The sooner you make peace with the reality of “hurry up and wait,” the more peace you’ll find. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4️⃣ NO is a complete sentence — and so is “I’ll Get Back To You On That.” Give yourself permission to pause. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 5️⃣ You haven’t been missing out on anything — you’ve just been busy experiencing something different than what you were expecting. Your life is your life as long as you’re living it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Hoping these are helpful to you as you begin to close out your week…I know they are to me 💛✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Xo Kt (reporting from the new home :)) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨ #WANTyourself #womenagainstnegativetalk #selftalk #peptalk #selftalkmatters #negativeselftalk #positiveselftalk #selfcompassion #selfrespect #selftrust #embraceyourself #lifeadvice #fridayquotes #goodadvice #selflove #wecandohardthings #iamwellandgood #cozynook #mindsetcoaching #mindsetmatters #nycliving
WHAT’S INTERESTING is that they never tell you t WHAT’S INTERESTING is that they never tell you that when your dreams come true, everything related to them comes true too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Let me explain… ✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I was born in L.A. and lived there until just before my 30th birthday. I’ve been in NYC for almost six years and it’s quite literally been a dream come true… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ …Which means I’ve also dealt with the consequences of that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💛 I love my community here AND I often ache for my L.A. community. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🌃 I marvel at the vast vertical landscape AND also sometimes feel overwhelmed by it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❄️ I jump for joy at the first snowfall AND want to hide in my home all day when it’s somehow still going in April. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤩 I feel like anything is possible AND also get paralysis-by-analysis because of all the possibilities. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ NYC has held high highs and low lows and I wouldn’t trade a minute of them for anything. And as I enter into yet another new chapter, I remember: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗬 𝗦𝗜𝗡𝗚𝗟𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗜𝗡 𝗟𝗜𝗙𝗘 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗽 𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Don’t chase your dreams because you think it’ll be perfect on the other side. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Chase them because you know it won’t, and it’s that exact fullness of life you’re after. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #selflovefirst #makeshifthappen #hsp #liveyourdreams #dreamlife #highlysensitiveperson #livefully #nystreetstyle #nycstyle #newyorkstreetstyle #wecandohardthings #selfdoubt #selfappreciation #befearless #mentalhealthadvocate #liveyourtruth #confidenceboost #newyorklifestyle #newchapter #newbeginning #mindfulliving
"Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that t "Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold. I will continue to become only if I resist extinguishing myself a million times a day. If I can sit in the fire of my own feelings, I will keep becoming." ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -the ever-brilliant @glennondoyle ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Keep your fire burning, friend. You're turning to gold 💛🔥 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (p.s. THANK YOU for all the love regarding our new home!!! It’s felt, big time 💛 Been soaking in all the moments and slowly moving through this transition physically, mentally, and emotionally…plus managing all the unexpecteds. More updates to share soon once I get my bearings. Pinky-promise :)) #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #glennondoyle #untamed #wecandohardthings #feelyourfeelings #selftrust #vulnerability #hsp #highlysensitiveperson #empath #keepgoing #mentalhealthishealth
So, I haven’t told you something….. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔑✨ WE BOUGHT A HOME!!!!! ✨🔑 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As of this week, Jeremy and I are officially homeowners in New York Freaking City! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 😧😍🤩😱😝🥳🥺😭 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ To say this has been a *process* is a massive understatement. The amount of hours, weeks, and months put into getting that little ziplock full of keys was beyond anything either of us ever expected, on both a logistical level and an emotional one. I’m so proud of both of us for sticking it out, developing a new level of patience and resilience, putting our egos aside when it was hard to, and MAKING THIS ACTUAL DREAM HAPPEN!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m sure I’ll share more later about everything that’s been going on these last few months. I’ve been abnormally quiet on here, as I didn’t want to talk about this while I was still IN IT, and when I was in it I was in it deep. There were so many times we felt like it might not happen… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But now that the keys are in hand and the contracts are signed, it’s time to ✨🥂 CELEBRATE! 🥂✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So yes, please indulge me while I post a million very similar pics in this carousel because this has been a long time coming and I’m milking the moment for all it’s worth!!! 😁 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tremendous gratitude to the best, kindest in the biz @abokunewicz (and @theleiferteam!) for among other things: finding solutions when it felt like there were none, getting on the phone with me a million times a week, and making this a whole lot less scary for two first-time buyers. Also, for knowing literally everyone you will ever need for literally anything 💛 So excited to share everything with you soon (including pics!), and tell you all about the process of getting, moving into, and living in this new HOME WE BOUGHT FOR OURSELVES CAN YOU BELIEVE?!?!? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (Well…let’s be honest. We bought it for Frankie. She’ll just share it with us. Time for her to reclaim her rightful place on the throne as queen of the UWS 🐶👑) #nychome #newyorkornowhere #newhomeowner #nycliving #timetocelebrate #nychomeowner #newhomeowners #nyforever #somuchpackingtodo
I ALWAYS WONDER how many people end up feeling stu I ALWAYS WONDER how many people end up feeling stuck because they’re so tied to an IDEA of what growth is supposed to look like, they can’t see the REALITY of the growth in front of them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I ALWAYS WONDER how much greatness, progress, excellence, and innovation is lost each day simply because someone decided to tell themselves that an idea was stupid, or was taking too long, or would "never happen anyway.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I ALWAYS WONDER what COULD BE if people weren’t so busy looking back at what WAS. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You are a person in progress. You are not failing. You're living. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💛✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #selftalkmatters #selflovefirst #makeshifthappen #hsp #highlysensitiveperson #wecandohardthings #mindsetmatters #confidenceboost #trustyourself #ruokday #selfdoubt #selfappreciation #selflove #peoplepleasing #selfcompassion #impostersyndrome #yourlifematters #innervoice #ownwhoyouare #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthadvocate
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