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WANTcast 116: How To Find Your North Star + Plan Your Impact with Christen Brandt of She’s The First

WANTcast 116: How To Find Your North Star + Plan Your Impact with Christen Brandt of She’s The First

by Katie Body
If you want to “make an impact” but either don’t know where to start or get overwhelmed thinking about ALL the places you could start, this episode is the one ... Read more
November 13, 2020November 13, 2020 Comment
How To Keep Your Good Going.

How To Keep Your Good Going.

by Katie Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools
About seven months ago, I wrote: Well. We’re not there yet. But it feels like our New Normal is close. Can you feel it too? And hopefully, it will be ... Read more
November 9, 2020November 9, 2020 Tagged: change, community, journaling, social justice, tips, tools Comment
I Am A Political Person.

I Am A Political Person.

by Katie Community Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
I found something I wrote back in February 2016 the other day that began โ€œIโ€™m not a political person, but…โ€ Oof. Cringe-worthy. I AM a political person. Always have been. ... Read more
November 9, 2020November 9, 2020 Tagged: community, politics, social media, the stories we tell Comment
WANTcast Episode 114: How Deep Kindness Will Save The World with Houston Kraft

WANTcast Episode 114: How Deep Kindness Will Save The World with Houston Kraft

by Katie the WANTcast
Houston Kraft is a speaker, author, and kindness advocate who has spoken at over 600 schools or events internationally. In 2016, he co-founded CharacterStrong to help schools more effectively teach ... Read more
October 9, 2020October 9, 2020 Tagged: houston kraft, kindness, success, WANTcast Comment
How To Harness Positivity When Everything Feels Like A Dumpster Fire

How To Harness Positivity When Everything Feels Like A Dumpster Fire

by Katie Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools
(…and the dumpster was filled with rancid milk and rotting broccoli and dog poop bags.)   WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL, my theater teacher used to tell us that ... Read more
September 30, 2020September 30, 2020 Tagged: motivation, optimism, positive self-talk, positivity, tips, tools Comment
Pod From The Heart: 5 Podcasting Tips To Start (And Maintain!) A Successful Show

Pod From The Heart: 5 Podcasting Tips To Start (And Maintain!) A Successful Show

by Katie Tips + Tools Work
โ€œYou should start a podcast. In a few years everyoneโ€™s gonna be doing them. If you want to, nowโ€™s the time. But you know, also, donโ€™t do it if you ... Read more
September 22, 2020September 22, 2020 Tagged: career, podcast, success, tips, WANTcast, work Comment
WANTcast Episode 112: Why (And How) You Should Bother with Jennifer Louden

WANTcast Episode 112: Why (And How) You Should Bother with Jennifer Louden

by Katie the WANTcast
Ever felt like you want to start something, do something, be something…but “what’s the point?” Or maybe you’ve “already tried”? Or it just seems too daunting, too trivial, too…fill in ... Read more
September 11, 2020 Tagged: WANTcast Comment
Transitions, Turning Points, Seasons, and Google Cal.

Transitions, Turning Points, Seasons, and Google Cal.

by Katie Community Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
Iโ€™ve always loved transitions – especially the ones that happen in September. I’d turn another year older, my favorite TV shows would start back up (no more Summer reruns!), and ... Read more
August 31, 2020September 1, 2020 Tagged: change, inspiration, motivation, seasons, transitions Comment
WANTcast Episode 111: Building Healthy Body Image with Helen Phelan

WANTcast Episode 111: Building Healthy Body Image with Helen Phelan

by Katie the WANTcast
This episode is for anyone and everyone who wants to rework their relationship with their bodyย – maybe after years’ worth of body-shaming the skin you’re in. Helen Phelan is a ... Read more
August 24, 2020August 24, 2020 Tagged: body neutrality, helen phelan, WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

by Katie the WANTcast
Most podcasts are just interviews OR solo episodes…cue thatย  song from Sweet Charity: there’s gotta be something OTHER than this! Don’t get me wrong, we LOVE interviews and solo episodes ... Read more
August 14, 2020August 14, 2020 Tagged: creativity, daigi-ann thompson, spoken word, WANTcast Comment

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#Positivity can feel hard to come by when youโ€™re #Positivity can feel hard to come by when youโ€™re feeling down and need it most. Here are four ways to harness positivity no matter your mood: (ps: ๐ŸทSAVE and ๐Ÿ’ŒSHARE if you like this post!!) 1๏ธโƒฃ) REPLACE THE WORD POSITIVE WITH PROACTIVE Guess what!!!! Positivity isnโ€™t always feel-good happiness and optimism. Positivity is about seeing a situation for what it is and taking ONE proactive step forward after the other. Once you let go of the idea that positivity should feel good, itโ€™ll open up opportunities for you to actually be positive by being proactive, not reactive. 2๏ธโƒฃ) CREATE AND REPEAT BELIEVABLE AFFIRMATIONS Studies have shown that when weโ€™re feeling upset, doubtful, or hopeless, โ€œpositiveโ€ affirmations/mantras donโ€™t work. Yep - right when we need them most. Thereโ€™s a caveat here though: theyโ€™ll work if we can believe them already. What resources do you have proof you have? In what ways will you able to be proactive? Your believable affirmations might sound like โ€œI am resilient,โ€ or they might sound like โ€œI get a chance to try again tomorrow.โ€ 3๏ธโƒฃ) DO SOMETHING YOU ALREADY KNOW YOUโ€™RE GOOD AT When youโ€™re feeling low, youโ€™re in the prime mindset to hone pre-existing habits. We often lean on the habits that are self-sabotagey...but what habits do you have that are HELPFUL? Your journaling practice? Cooking lunch? Your skincare routine? A hobby youโ€™ve mastered? Do what youโ€™re already know you excel at right now to get yourself in a positive, proactive mindset...there will be tons of time to create excellence from scratch later ๐Ÿ™ƒ 4๏ธโƒฃ) GIVE 7 MEANINGFUL COMPLIMENTS Learning positive self-talk is just like learning any other language: youโ€™ve got to practice it. And just like learning Spanish or French, youโ€™ve got to practice it with other people, not just yourself! In marketing, strategists say a consumer needs to hear something 7xs before they take action. So maybe, just maybe, hearing yourself say loving, kind things about others 7xs will help you start to say those things to yourself, too. โœจ Which one of these tips will you follow today??? Tell us in the comments ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #findyourself #beyourself #stayyourself
ALWAYS REMEMBER: The most important story youโ€™ll ALWAYS REMEMBER: The most important story youโ€™ll ever tell is the one you tell TO yourself, ABOUT your Self โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk โžก๏ธ For tips, tools, motivation and inspiration to shift your #selftalk, join our movement at womenagainstnegativetalk.com โœจ
WHAT ONE OF US DOES AFFECTS US ALL. We think a fu WHAT ONE OF US DOES AFFECTS US ALL. We think a future version of our Self will know better. Be stronger. Speak louder. Or that one day, weโ€™ll be successful or self-actualized โ€˜enoughโ€™ to say what we truly mean instead of what we think checks all the right boxes. The stakes are too high right now, we convince ourselves. I donโ€™t know enough yet. Like once we achieve a very specific self-dictated level of success or expertise, the conversational doors will fly open. When that happens, we say, weโ€™ll use our voice. Weโ€™ll talk about the things that matter. Systemic racism. Gender disparities. Wage gaps. Mental health. When, when, when. Yet each time we say when, we not only put our Self on the sidelines, we delay the very progress we desire to contribute to. Each time we say when, we reinforce the narrative in our mind that the โ€˜rightโ€™ time is far off in the distance. Imagine if everyone in the world waited until their own self-determined โ€˜day whens.โ€™ We would never have any change or progress. We would spend our years waiting around and call that a life. To paraphrase an old proverb: the best time to make a change was yesterday. The second best time is now. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself โœจ For tips, tools, motivation and inspiration to shift your #selftalk, join our movement at womenagainstnegativetalk.com โœจ
The one question to ask yourself when you start to The one question to ask yourself when you start to spiral down the REGRET rabbit hole ๐ŸŒ€ Regret helps us course-correct so we can do better next time...but since it feels so uncomfortable, we often miss the opportunity for growth and change. Donโ€™t let the challenge of the moment keep you from the change thatโ€™s on the other side โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #regret
This weekโ€™s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recog This weekโ€™s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recognitions feel like statements of what is already true and present. While mantras can sometimes feel like the โ€œfake itโ€ part of โ€œfake it till you make it,โ€ recognitions recognize that there is no faking it, because youโ€™ve already got all the tools you need to โ€œmake it.โ€ Do you know how to use all the tools yet? Probably-almost-definitely-not. As @gloriasteinem says, making a fool of yourself is absolutely essential, and when youโ€™re figuring out how to do, use, or BE for the first time, you certainly make a fool of yourself. Thatโ€™s part of the process. But you have the tools. Theyโ€™re there. And if theyโ€™re not, you have what you need to figure out how to fill in the gaps. Whether itโ€™s knowledge, skill, or the ability to get curious and ask the important questions - the TIME IS NOW to use the tools youโ€™ve got. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #gloriasteinem #justdoit #growthmindset๐ŸŒฑ
The most important story you will ever tell is the The most important story you will ever tell is the one you tell to yourself, about your Self โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
โœจFREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSON โœจFREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSONโœจ For the first time on the WANTcast, weโ€™re interviewing a spoken word artistโ€ฆand then she is PERFORMING her piece here on the show. We were so moved, and know you will be too. @theperfect_dai is an actress, dancer, spoken word poet and fitness instructor from The Bronx, New York by way of Jamaica. \Writing poetry since she was 12 years old and performing spoken word since 2012, she performs under the stage moniker, The Perfect Dai. In this episode we talk about the importance of creativity during tumultuous times (and how creativity might come in unexpected forms), being multi-passionate, the balance between structure and freedom, and more. ๐ŸŽง Listen on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever you access your favorite podcasts. #WANTyourself #WANTcast #womenagainstnegativetalk
When youโ€™re in the negative self-talk loop of โ€˜Iโ€™m trying and itโ€™s not enough,โ€™ โ€˜Iโ€™m so behind,โ€™ or even just โ€˜Why does this have to be so hard,โ€ try this reframe: ๐——๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚โ€™๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐˜โ€ฆ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’•โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’†๐’™๐’•. The whatโ€™s next part is so important here. Because sometimes (not always, but sometimes) when we focus so intently on the โ€˜what weโ€™ve gotโ€™ part, we forget to look forward. Life is a dance between the past, the present, and the future โ€“ doing the best with what weโ€™ve got and the best for whatโ€™s next encompasses all three. Weโ€™re doing in the present, working with what the past has brought us, and building toward the future. This past-present-future mindset not only allows you to embrace where youโ€™ve been and where you are, but also look for ways you can enhance and improve life โ€“ your own AND othersโ€™ โ€“ in the future. Maybe that looks like filming that video with your phone or computer cam so that you get into a groove, instead of lamenting/waiting to have โ€œbetter equipment.โ€ Maybe that means Googling how to create a nourishing meal with whatโ€™s already in your pantry (which will spark creativity you can utilize for future meals no matter your budget!) instead of getting frustrated your budget isnโ€™t wide enough for the fancy ingredients you see on @instagram. Maybe itโ€™s something else. Whatever it is - do the BEST with what youโ€™ve GOT and the BEST for WHATโ€™S NEXT. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #comparisonquotes #justdoit #growthmindset #selfcare #selfworth
๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฝWOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink ๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฝWOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink โ€œIn 1959 when Hawaii became a U.S. State, Patsy Mink knew she wanted to run for a position in government. Little did she know, she would become the first woman of color elected to the U.S. House of Representatives and the first Asian-American woman to serve in Congress. In addition to writing bills like Title IX, the Early Childhood Education Act, and the Women's Educational Equity Act, Mink was the first Asian-American to run for U.S. President.โ€ [@womenshistory] Itโ€™s important we celebrate ourselves out loud, and that we also celebrate the women who helped make it okay to do so. Thank you to all the women - the trailblazers, the freedom fighters, the justice seekers, the extraordinary and remarkable humans - that we can look to and draw strength from. Our legacy is in the knowledge we pass and the roads we build for others to walk upon long after weโ€™re gone โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #womeninhistory
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Itโ€™s been almost 5๏ธโƒฃ years... ...and I stil Itโ€™s been almost 5๏ธโƒฃ years... ...and I still delight in the small hallmarks of NYC living, like seeing a row of yellow cabs swerving around the sidewalk like bright Christmas lights hugging the perimeter of a house ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ๐Ÿš•โœจ Tell me something that delights you about where you live ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘‡๐ŸผI want to know: what small thing about your city brings you large amounts of joy????????? #WANTyourself #WANTyourhome #lovewhereyoulive #autumninnewyork
During this heartbreakingly, heart-cracking-openly During this heartbreakingly, heart-cracking-openly complicated year, you might be finding it easy to land on what youโ€™re grateful for and why. You might be struggling to land on what youโ€™re grateful for and why. You might be experiencing both at the same time...because life is life and life is complex and sometimes thatโ€™s just how it is. Thatโ€™s normal. There is no one way to experience any one moment. When it comes to #gratitude, pop self-helpy culture makes us believe that a โ€œgratitude practiceโ€ should come naturally to us. It tells us we should have a โ€œgratitude practiceโ€ and then assumes we know what that means. ๐Ÿ“Œ THE THING IS: ๐Ÿ“Œ We can't wait for gratitude to come - and can't just expect it to come naturally (especially in the tougher times). To get fluent in gratitude, we need to ACTUALLY PRACTICE IT and BUILD THE SKILLSET. A gratitude practice is about practicing just as much as itโ€™s about gratitude-ing. Practice it just like you'd practice a sport or new language - so that when you need it most, you'll be able to access it. Put together this mini guide for you outlining the 4-step, 5-minute way we practice gratitude - literally PRACTICE it - in our home. Published a new #WANTcast episode about it too in case listening to podcasts while you cook, walk, or relax is a part of hour day today. The point is NOT to ignore or write over the very real hard shit going on in life by REACHING for or forcing ourselves to โ€œsee the goodโ€ - we donโ€™t do that in this house. The point is to train yourself to notice whatโ€™s there no matter the day, week, month, or year. I hope itโ€™s useful, especially if youโ€™re struggling. Feel free to share with anyone you feel might be struggling, too. I love you and Iโ€™m so grateful for you, 365 days a year. I hope youโ€™re grateful for you, too ๐Ÿ’› #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself
Iโ€™ve been going REALLY internal lately. HBU? โ€ข ๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—บ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—ผ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐˜€: The work Iโ€™m doing is less about the the short term and more about the long haul. โ€ข ๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต โ€œ๐—ด๐—ผ-๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟโ€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€: The thinks Iโ€™m thinking are less about what I want to DO and more about who I want to BE. โ€ข ๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น*: The conversations Iโ€™m having are less frequent/casual and more planned/deep. (*lol i wasnโ€™t super social to begin with so this is a new level for me) Something about the beginning of the holiday season (which, for many of us is gonna look completely different than any holiday season in our lifetime) combined with the impending end of the year combined with the fact that the year thatโ€™s about to end is the PLOT TWIST of a year that has been 2020... ...Iโ€™m quieter, more contemplative, and craving my own attention first and foremost. Just know that if youโ€™re in the same boat, ALL OF THIS STUFF IS GOOD AND NECESSARY and PLEASE donโ€™t feel guilty for not being as โ€œonโ€ as you usually are right now. A light thatโ€™s always turned on eventually burns out ๐Ÿ•ฏ Be gentle. Love you. Hope you love you too ๐Ÿ’› #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #burnout #introvert (๐Ÿ“ท @natashaannephotography at one of my favorite speaking gigs of last year. as internal as im going rn MAN do I miss this something fierce.)
Yesterday was our 3-year wedding anniversary - a d Yesterday was our 3-year wedding anniversary - a day that seems like both 7 minutes and 70 years ago all at once. The concept of โ€œtimeโ€ isnโ€™t really something that exists like usual in 2020... Anyway. Last night at dinner we asked each other what our favorite part of Year 3 has been, hardest part of Year 3 has been, and what weโ€™re most looking forward to in Year 4. And both of us answered: 1. This 2. This 3. This, but more and better I donโ€™t trust anyone who denies that 2020 has brought up hard shit in their relationships. And if you think someone you follow here on The โ€˜Gramโ„ข๏ธ has been exempt from all the hard shit, Iโ€™d like to remind you that judging someoneโ€™s relationship by what they *choose* to share with you on The โ€˜Gramโ„ข๏ธ is like looking into one tiny, accessible window and thinking you know the vibe of the whole 5-story townhouse. And. Iโ€™m ๐Ÿ’ฏ serious when I say the hardest stuff has also been the best stuff. Itโ€™s not easy to share a 470* square foot studio with your partner and your dog during a pandemic. You get access to the other person 24/7 and that means the things youโ€™d typically hear about later happen right in front of you in real time. The wins, the frustrations, everything. Each thing has ultimately provided an opportunity for us to hone our communication, understand each other better, and help the other person along on their own journey of finding, being, staying, and WANTING themselves. And as I learn more about MYSELF in 2020, I realize I chose the exact right person for not just Present Me, but Future Me too. Iโ€™m not gonna say thereโ€™s a silver lining to every tough situation, because we all know thatโ€™s some next-level spiritual bypass bull. However, in this PARTICULAR tough situation, I can say with confidence that, one day, when we live in a *GiGaNtiC* one-bedroom apt, weโ€™ll look back on all this time spent mere feet from each other all day every day and be so grateful it brought out the best, worst, and full spectrum of who we are, individually and together ๐Ÿคœ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿค›๐Ÿผ #tuckwitchgettinhitched ๐Ÿ“ท @krista.ashley *I used to think it was 475 but looking at our floor plan reminded me that itโ€™s actually smaller than I thought all this time ๐Ÿ˜‚
๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ HAPPY IMPACT DAY!!!! ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ I have bee ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ HAPPY IMPACT DAY!!!! ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ I have been so moved, inspired, and CHANGED by @cjbrandt and @tammytibbettsโ€™ work over at @shesthefirst ever since Christen and I met four years ago. We sat at the same table at an event shortly after the 2016 election. We bonded over our mutual belief in the potential of women and girls, and drive to create a world in which theyโ€™re able to realize their full potential. And as I kept learning how much of an impact they were making through STF, I kept keeping myself accountable for how I could do the same. Tammy and Christenโ€™s new book ๐—œ๐— ๐—ฃ๐—”๐—–๐—ง: ๐—” ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ-๐—ฏ๐˜†-๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ฃ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—–๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ช๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—œ๐—ป is the book anyone and everyone who wants to make a difference should get in their hands ASAP. Itโ€™ll inspire you to get to work, but even more than that, it will give you the EXACT framework and structure for you to actually make that work happen (you know I love a good structure and strategy plan ๐Ÿค“). @cjbrandt is on the WANTcast today and weโ€™re GOING THERE. In this episode, we talk about how to find your "North Star" - that vision that drives your actions - and why the words you choose to describe it are so important, quick-fix solutions vs. long-term systemic change (it's not the conversation you think it is!), how to keep your finger on the pulse of what's needed out there, how to find Impact Advisors and mentors, and so much more. SWIPE THRU for some of my favorite mic drop moments from the episode ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ๐ŸŽค If you want to "make an impact" but either don't know where to start or get overwhelmed thinking about ALL the places you could start, this episode is the one you've been waiting for. ๐ŸŽง LISTEN on @itunes or @spotify, leave a 5๏ธโƒฃ๐ŸŒŸ REVIEW if you love it, and donโ€™t forget to SUBSCRIBE โœ… ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ DROP A ๐Ÿ’ซ IN THE COMMENTS if youโ€™re going to listen!!! I know youโ€™ll love this as much as I did. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #shesthefirst
OK, I think we could all use a little laugh... . OK, I think we could all use a little laugh... ...๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—œ๐—ก๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—ฆ๐—˜๐—ค๐—จ๐—˜๐—ก๐—ง๐—œ๐—”๐—Ÿ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ธ-๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚โ€™๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜†??? Like, getting huffy over something that does NOT matter whatsoever? I know youโ€™ve had them.... Here are two โœจgemsโœจ from my own life: ๐Ÿชฐ Snapping โ€œTHIS IS EXACTLY WHY WE CANโ€™T OPEN OUR WINDOWS!!!!!!!!โ€ when a large (read: very regular-sized) fly got into the apartment. I believe it was also followed by excessive swatting and maybe trying to lock the fly in the bathroom. ๐Ÿฉณ Whining โ€œNOW THEY HAVE TO GET WASHED FOR NOTHING!!!!โ€ when I put on my favorite @lululemon shorts and instead of working out I did NOT work out and just wore them all day. I believe this was also followed by something like โ€œTHIS IS WHY I WEAR REAL CLOTHES DURING THE DAY, SO I DONโ€™T WASTE MY WORKOUT CLOTHES!!โ€ I donโ€™t have solutions to offer you for these because I think sometimes the solution is being able to look back at yourself and laugh at what you can clearly see now wasnโ€™t worth even a fraction of the energy you gave to it in the moment. And maybe that moment of hindsight can help us in the future. For example, Iโ€™ve put on โ€œreal clothesโ€ today in order to not โ€œwasteโ€ my workout clothes on a day where I probably wonโ€™t sweat. Also the windows are closed ๐Ÿ‘€ ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ TELL ME YOUR โ€œTHINGโ€ BELOW, if only to not make me feel so alone in my special ability to get irate over a fly that got into the house. (Please??) 2020, man. Bringing out the whiny child I never was. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ #womenagainstnegativetalk #realmotherfuckinglife
โœจ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ ๐—ฆ โœจ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ ๐—ฆ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ณ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—›๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ: ๐—ฃ๐—Ÿ๐—”๐—ฌ ๐—” ๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—จ๐—ก๐—— ๐—ข๐—™ ๐—ฆ๐—˜๐—Ÿ๐—™-๐—Ÿ๐—ข๐—ฉ๐—˜ ๐— ๐—”๐—— ๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—•๐—ฆ! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝโšก๏ธ The ever-inspiring @danaemercer took one of my @aaptiv classes where I did this exercise and shared in on her Stories...which reminded me how powerful it is!! โšก๏ธ Play along with us. Say the first thing that comes to mind. Some suggestions if youโ€™re feeling lost... 1๏ธโƒฃ I AM ___________ (ex: kind, hilarious, generous, a good friend, loving, true to my word, talented, compassionate, a great listener, driven.) 2๏ธโƒฃ I HAVE ___________ (ex: resilience, perspective, an unwavering sense of self, humor, stellar gut instincts, non-attachment, a sense of belonging.) 3๏ธโƒฃ I KNOW ___________ (ex: I am right on time, I am exactly where I need to be to feel the way I want to feel, Iโ€™ll find a way, Life is working for me not against me, I am doing the best I can, I have support, I can find community anywhere, I get to design my life. The point? ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ (๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ) ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ, ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ธ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜† ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜. So when youโ€™re feeling low, repeat these I AM, I HAVE, I KNOW phrases to yourself. Write them down so you donโ€™t forget. Screenshot this and post to your Stories if sharing out loud helps. The point is that when you say them, theyโ€™ll be believable, because โ€” guess what โ€” theyโ€™re a part of you no matter where you go or how you feel. โ€ผ๏ธ And REMEMBER โ€ผ๏ธ you donโ€™t always have to LIKE everything about yourself in order to practice self-love. Self love is unconditional and unwavering - so to build it, find those things about yourself you respect and honor no matter what life throws your way. I promise it will change your life. It did for me. NOW YOU๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ ๐Ÿฅฐ Tell me your I AM, I HAVE, I KNOW in the comments. Choose one or choose them all. Iโ€™d love to hear yours below. Letโ€™s do this together, yes? #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #selflove
โšก๏ธMonday thoughts: NOW THE WORK BEGINS BECAUSE โšก๏ธMonday thoughts: NOW THE WORK BEGINS BECAUSE NOW THE WORK CAN BEGINโšก๏ธ โ€จArtists, mental health professionals, journalists, social justice warriors, educators, scientists, humanitarians. Whether youโ€™re a book author or a business strategist. A PTA parent or a politician. Itโ€™s bananas to think about how much energy, time, and brain space weโ€™ve spent over the last four years trying to simply convince people, organizations and systems why our work matters. The endless convincing and bending over backwards to go to bat for the work; work that shouldnโ€™t need to be up for questioning or review to begin with.โ€จโ€จYes, there is still so much work to be done. Itโ€™s disheartening that almost half the country (and 55% white women, donโ€™t forget that part) voted for the people, organizations, and systems that resulted in four years of protests and explanations and work to fight for the work.โ€จโ€จAnd. The door has opened. The broken and oppressive systems have been recognized as broken and oppressive. The pathways to not only healing but complete re-imagination have been pointed out with proactive curiosity. โ€œThat. That right there. I wonder what life could look like if we went down that path. Letโ€™s start taking our steps forward and not just talking about what it would be like to put one foot in front of the other.โ€โ€จโ€จItโ€™s time to take positive action. Itโ€™s time to be expansively proactive instead of struggling daily to not be reactive. Itโ€™s time to change our world and THE world. โ€จโ€จBeing fearless is when the fear is less than the faith, and right now, I have all the faith. โ€จโ€จNow the work begins, because now the work *can* begin. โ€จโ€จLetโ€™s get to it.โ€จโ€จ#womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself
๐ŸŽ‰ SWIPE ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ with SOUND ON ๐Ÿ”Šas you read. ๐ŸŽ‰ SWIPE ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ with SOUND ON ๐Ÿ”Šas you read. A Day In The Life, 11/7/20... โ€œEverybody look around 'Cause there's a reason to rejoice you see Everybody come out And let's commence to singing joyfully Everybody look up And feel the hope that we've been waiting for Everybody's glad Because our silent fear and dread is gone Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully Just look about You owe it to yourself to check it out Can't you feel a brand new day? Can't you feel a brand new day? Can't you feel a brand new day? Can't you feel a brand new day? Everybody be glad Because the sun is shining just for us Everybody wake up Into the morning into happiness Hello world It's like a different way of living now And thank you world We always knew that we'd be free somehow In harmony And show the world that we've got liberty It's such a change For us to live so independently Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully Just look about You owe it to yourself to check it out Can't you feel a brand new day? Can't you feel a brand new day?โ€ Dancing in the streets. Strangers drinking champagne together (my new friend Faith set up a champagne station where she and her father used to sit together before he passed of Covid ๐Ÿ’›). Horns honking. Instruments (yes that is a conch shell ๐Ÿš). Women walking up to the Womens Rights Pioneers statue in The Mall and making speeches of thanks to the bronze women. From cheers of respect, thanks, and grief at 7pm to cheers of joy all day and night and then back into the day again. A wave of relief and release. Now the work begins but also NOW ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸฝTHE ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸฝWORK ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸฝBEGINS. I hope I never forget what yesterday was like. Canโ€™t you feel a brand new day indeed โœจ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’› #bidenharris2020 #nyc #election2020 #yeswecan #lovewins #sciencewins #decencywins
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#Positivity can feel hard to come by when youโ€™re #Positivity can feel hard to come by when youโ€™re feeling down and need it most. Here are four ways to harness positivity no matter your mood: (ps: ๐ŸทSAVE and ๐Ÿ’ŒSHARE if you like this post!!) 1๏ธโƒฃ) REPLACE THE WORD POSITIVE WITH PROACTIVE Guess what!!!! Positivity isnโ€™t always feel-good happiness and optimism. Positivity is about seeing a situation for what it is and taking ONE proactive step forward after the other. Once you let go of the idea that positivity should feel good, itโ€™ll open up opportunities for you to actually be positive by being proactive, not reactive. 2๏ธโƒฃ) CREATE AND REPEAT BELIEVABLE AFFIRMATIONS Studies have shown that when weโ€™re feeling upset, doubtful, or hopeless, โ€œpositiveโ€ affirmations/mantras donโ€™t work. Yep - right when we need them most. Thereโ€™s a caveat here though: theyโ€™ll work if we can believe them already. What resources do you have proof you have? In what ways will you able to be proactive? Your believable affirmations might sound like โ€œI am resilient,โ€ or they might sound like โ€œI get a chance to try again tomorrow.โ€ 3๏ธโƒฃ) DO SOMETHING YOU ALREADY KNOW YOUโ€™RE GOOD AT When youโ€™re feeling low, youโ€™re in the prime mindset to hone pre-existing habits. We often lean on the habits that are self-sabotagey...but what habits do you have that are HELPFUL? Your journaling practice? Cooking lunch? Your skincare routine? A hobby youโ€™ve mastered? Do what youโ€™re already know you excel at right now to get yourself in a positive, proactive mindset...there will be tons of time to create excellence from scratch later ๐Ÿ™ƒ 4๏ธโƒฃ) GIVE 7 MEANINGFUL COMPLIMENTS Learning positive self-talk is just like learning any other language: youโ€™ve got to practice it. And just like learning Spanish or French, youโ€™ve got to practice it with other people, not just yourself! In marketing, strategists say a consumer needs to hear something 7xs before they take action. So maybe, just maybe, hearing yourself say loving, kind things about others 7xs will help you start to say those things to yourself, too. โœจ Which one of these tips will you follow today??? Tell us in the comments ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #findyourself #beyourself #stayyourself
ALWAYS REMEMBER: The most important story youโ€™ll ALWAYS REMEMBER: The most important story youโ€™ll ever tell is the one you tell TO yourself, ABOUT your Self โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk โžก๏ธ For tips, tools, motivation and inspiration to shift your #selftalk, join our movement at womenagainstnegativetalk.com โœจ
WHAT ONE OF US DOES AFFECTS US ALL. We think a fu WHAT ONE OF US DOES AFFECTS US ALL. We think a future version of our Self will know better. Be stronger. Speak louder. Or that one day, weโ€™ll be successful or self-actualized โ€˜enoughโ€™ to say what we truly mean instead of what we think checks all the right boxes. The stakes are too high right now, we convince ourselves. I donโ€™t know enough yet. Like once we achieve a very specific self-dictated level of success or expertise, the conversational doors will fly open. When that happens, we say, weโ€™ll use our voice. Weโ€™ll talk about the things that matter. Systemic racism. Gender disparities. Wage gaps. Mental health. When, when, when. Yet each time we say when, we not only put our Self on the sidelines, we delay the very progress we desire to contribute to. Each time we say when, we reinforce the narrative in our mind that the โ€˜rightโ€™ time is far off in the distance. Imagine if everyone in the world waited until their own self-determined โ€˜day whens.โ€™ We would never have any change or progress. We would spend our years waiting around and call that a life. To paraphrase an old proverb: the best time to make a change was yesterday. The second best time is now. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself โœจ For tips, tools, motivation and inspiration to shift your #selftalk, join our movement at womenagainstnegativetalk.com โœจ
The one question to ask yourself when you start to The one question to ask yourself when you start to spiral down the REGRET rabbit hole ๐ŸŒ€ Regret helps us course-correct so we can do better next time...but since it feels so uncomfortable, we often miss the opportunity for growth and change. Donโ€™t let the challenge of the moment keep you from the change thatโ€™s on the other side โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #regret
This weekโ€™s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recog This weekโ€™s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recognitions feel like statements of what is already true and present. While mantras can sometimes feel like the โ€œfake itโ€ part of โ€œfake it till you make it,โ€ recognitions recognize that there is no faking it, because youโ€™ve already got all the tools you need to โ€œmake it.โ€ Do you know how to use all the tools yet? Probably-almost-definitely-not. As @gloriasteinem says, making a fool of yourself is absolutely essential, and when youโ€™re figuring out how to do, use, or BE for the first time, you certainly make a fool of yourself. Thatโ€™s part of the process. But you have the tools. Theyโ€™re there. And if theyโ€™re not, you have what you need to figure out how to fill in the gaps. Whether itโ€™s knowledge, skill, or the ability to get curious and ask the important questions - the TIME IS NOW to use the tools youโ€™ve got. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #gloriasteinem #justdoit #growthmindset๐ŸŒฑ
The most important story you will ever tell is the The most important story you will ever tell is the one you tell to yourself, about your Self โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
โœจFREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSON โœจFREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSONโœจ For the first time on the WANTcast, weโ€™re interviewing a spoken word artistโ€ฆand then she is PERFORMING her piece here on the show. We were so moved, and know you will be too. @theperfect_dai is an actress, dancer, spoken word poet and fitness instructor from The Bronx, New York by way of Jamaica. \Writing poetry since she was 12 years old and performing spoken word since 2012, she performs under the stage moniker, The Perfect Dai. In this episode we talk about the importance of creativity during tumultuous times (and how creativity might come in unexpected forms), being multi-passionate, the balance between structure and freedom, and more. ๐ŸŽง Listen on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever you access your favorite podcasts. #WANTyourself #WANTcast #womenagainstnegativetalk
When youโ€™re in the negative self-talk loop of โ€˜Iโ€™m trying and itโ€™s not enough,โ€™ โ€˜Iโ€™m so behind,โ€™ or even just โ€˜Why does this have to be so hard,โ€ try this reframe: ๐——๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚โ€™๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐˜โ€ฆ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’•โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’†๐’™๐’•. The whatโ€™s next part is so important here. Because sometimes (not always, but sometimes) when we focus so intently on the โ€˜what weโ€™ve gotโ€™ part, we forget to look forward. Life is a dance between the past, the present, and the future โ€“ doing the best with what weโ€™ve got and the best for whatโ€™s next encompasses all three. Weโ€™re doing in the present, working with what the past has brought us, and building toward the future. This past-present-future mindset not only allows you to embrace where youโ€™ve been and where you are, but also look for ways you can enhance and improve life โ€“ your own AND othersโ€™ โ€“ in the future. Maybe that looks like filming that video with your phone or computer cam so that you get into a groove, instead of lamenting/waiting to have โ€œbetter equipment.โ€ Maybe that means Googling how to create a nourishing meal with whatโ€™s already in your pantry (which will spark creativity you can utilize for future meals no matter your budget!) instead of getting frustrated your budget isnโ€™t wide enough for the fancy ingredients you see on @instagram. Maybe itโ€™s something else. Whatever it is - do the BEST with what youโ€™ve GOT and the BEST for WHATโ€™S NEXT. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #comparisonquotes #justdoit #growthmindset #selfcare #selfworth
๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฝWOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink ๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸฝWOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink โ€œIn 1959 when Hawaii became a U.S. State, Patsy Mink knew she wanted to run for a position in government. Little did she know, she would become the first woman of color elected to the U.S. House of Representatives and the first Asian-American woman to serve in Congress. In addition to writing bills like Title IX, the Early Childhood Education Act, and the Women's Educational Equity Act, Mink was the first Asian-American to run for U.S. President.โ€ [@womenshistory] Itโ€™s important we celebrate ourselves out loud, and that we also celebrate the women who helped make it okay to do so. Thank you to all the women - the trailblazers, the freedom fighters, the justice seekers, the extraordinary and remarkable humans - that we can look to and draw strength from. Our legacy is in the knowledge we pass and the roads we build for others to walk upon long after weโ€™re gone โœจ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #womeninhistory
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