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WANTcast Episode 112: Why (And How) You Should Bother with Jennifer Louden

WANTcast Episode 112: Why (And How) You Should Bother with Jennifer Louden

by Katie the WANTcast
Ever felt like you want to start something, do something, be something…but “what’s the point?” Or maybe you’ve “already tried”? Or it just seems too daunting, too trivial, too…fill in ... Read more
September 11, 2020 Tagged: WANTcast Comment
Transitions, Turning Points, Seasons, and Google Cal.

Transitions, Turning Points, Seasons, and Google Cal.

by Katie Community Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
I’ve always loved transitions – especially the ones that happen in September. I’d turn another year older, my favorite TV shows would start back up (no more Summer reruns!), and ... Read more
August 31, 2020September 1, 2020 Tagged: change, inspiration, motivation, seasons, transitions Comment
WANTcast Episode 111: Building Healthy Body Image with Helen Phelan

WANTcast Episode 111: Building Healthy Body Image with Helen Phelan

by Katie the WANTcast
This episode is for anyone and everyone who wants to rework their relationship with their body – maybe after years’ worth of body-shaming the skin you’re in. Helen Phelan is a ... Read more
August 24, 2020August 24, 2020 Tagged: body neutrality, helen phelan, WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

by Katie the WANTcast
Most podcasts are just interviews OR solo episodes…cue that  song from Sweet Charity: there’s gotta be something OTHER than this! Don’t get me wrong, we LOVE interviews and solo episodes ... Read more
August 14, 2020August 14, 2020 Tagged: creativity, daigi-ann thompson, spoken word, WANTcast Comment
The Self-Talk Shift For When You’re Feeling Behind Everyone Else In Life

The Self-Talk Shift For When You’re Feeling Behind Everyone Else In Life

by Katie Most Popular Posts Tips + Tools
True or False: I’m able to distance myself from what other people are doing and avoid the comparison trap. Maybe you think I’m not affected by ‘what other people are ... Read more
August 2, 2020August 2, 2020 4 Comments
WANTcast Episode 109: Do The Best With What You’ve Got And The Best For What’s Next

WANTcast Episode 109: Do The Best With What You’ve Got And The Best For What’s Next

by Katie the WANTcast
A negative self-talk loop is when the demeaning and degrading story we tell ourselves about ourselves or our life not only plays on repeat in our brain, but leads to even more ... Read more
July 31, 2020 Tagged: WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 108: The Life-Changing Power Of Turning Off Your Notifications with Kelsey Patel

WANTcast Episode 108: The Life-Changing Power Of Turning Off Your Notifications with Kelsey Patel

by Katie the WANTcast
Burnout and overwhelm are timeless and can show up any time, any where, around any THING. Kelsey Patel is one of Hollywood’s leading wellness and reiki experts, as well as ... Read more
July 24, 2020July 24, 2020 Tagged: burnout, kelsey patel, overwhelm, reiki, WANTcast Comment
WANTcast Episode 107: Feeling Myself, Feeling Myself

WANTcast Episode 107: Feeling Myself, Feeling Myself

by Katie the WANTcast
Take a cue from Queen Bey and Nicki – this episode of the WANTcast is all about the power of touch and how it affects your body image. If you’re ... Read more
July 11, 2020 Tagged: body image, WANTcast Comment
Feeling Myself: On Touch + Body Image

Feeling Myself: On Touch + Body Image

by Katie Body Most Popular Posts
Jessica Rabbit once famously said, “I’m not bad, I’m just drawn that way.” Self-talk isn’t inherently good or bad, positive or negative – it’s all information. It’s how we view ... Read more
July 9, 2020August 2, 2020 Tagged: body image, body neutrality, body positivity, tools Comment
Taking Your Self Off The Sidelines: Why Shifting Your Self-Talk Matters.

Taking Your Self Off The Sidelines: Why Shifting Your Self-Talk Matters.

by Katie Most Popular Posts Motivation + Inspiration
I first conceived of WANT: Women Against Negative Talk back in 2007. It was born out of my own personal pain, and my own simultaneous a-ha moments that a) conscious ... Read more
July 3, 2020July 3, 2020 Tagged: activism, change, community, inspiration, motivation, self image, self worth, self-talk Comment

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The one question to ask yourself when you start to The one question to ask yourself when you start to spiral down the REGRET rabbit hole 🌀 Regret helps us course-correct so we can do better next time...but since it feels so uncomfortable, we often miss the opportunity for growth and change. Don’t let the challenge of the moment keep you from the change that’s on the other side ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #regret
This week’s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recog This week’s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recognitions feel like statements of what is already true and present. While mantras can sometimes feel like the “fake it” part of “fake it till you make it,” recognitions recognize that there is no faking it, because you’ve already got all the tools you need to “make it.” Do you know how to use all the tools yet? Probably-almost-definitely-not. As @gloriasteinem says, making a fool of yourself is absolutely essential, and when you’re figuring out how to do, use, or BE for the first time, you certainly make a fool of yourself. That’s part of the process. But you have the tools. They’re there. And if they’re not, you have what you need to figure out how to fill in the gaps. Whether it’s knowledge, skill, or the ability to get curious and ask the important questions - the TIME IS NOW to use the tools you’ve got. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #gloriasteinem #justdoit #growthmindset🌱
The most important story you will ever tell is the The most important story you will ever tell is the one you tell to yourself, about your Self ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
✨FREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSON ✨FREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSON✨ For the first time on the WANTcast, we’re interviewing a spoken word artist…and then she is PERFORMING her piece here on the show. We were so moved, and know you will be too. @theperfect_dai is an actress, dancer, spoken word poet and fitness instructor from The Bronx, New York by way of Jamaica. \Writing poetry since she was 12 years old and performing spoken word since 2012, she performs under the stage moniker, The Perfect Dai. In this episode we talk about the importance of creativity during tumultuous times (and how creativity might come in unexpected forms), being multi-passionate, the balance between structure and freedom, and more. 🎧 Listen on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever you access your favorite podcasts. #WANTyourself #WANTcast #womenagainstnegativetalk
When you’re in the negative self-talk loop of ‘I’m trying and it’s not enough,’ ‘I’m so behind,’ or even just ‘Why does this have to be so hard,” try this reframe: 𝗗𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝘁…𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒏𝒆𝒙𝒕. The what’s next part is so important here. Because sometimes (not always, but sometimes) when we focus so intently on the ‘what we’ve got’ part, we forget to look forward. Life is a dance between the past, the present, and the future – doing the best with what we’ve got and the best for what’s next encompasses all three. We’re doing in the present, working with what the past has brought us, and building toward the future. This past-present-future mindset not only allows you to embrace where you’ve been and where you are, but also look for ways you can enhance and improve life – your own AND others’ – in the future. Maybe that looks like filming that video with your phone or computer cam so that you get into a groove, instead of lamenting/waiting to have “better equipment.” Maybe that means Googling how to create a nourishing meal with what’s already in your pantry (which will spark creativity you can utilize for future meals no matter your budget!) instead of getting frustrated your budget isn’t wide enough for the fancy ingredients you see on @instagram. Maybe it’s something else. Whatever it is - do the BEST with what you’ve GOT and the BEST for WHAT’S NEXT. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #comparisonquotes #justdoit #growthmindset #selfcare #selfworth
👉🏽WOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink 👉🏽WOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink “In 1959 when Hawaii became a U.S. State, Patsy Mink knew she wanted to run for a position in government. Little did she know, she would become the first woman of color elected to the U.S. House of Representatives and the first Asian-American woman to serve in Congress. In addition to writing bills like Title IX, the Early Childhood Education Act, and the Women's Educational Equity Act, Mink was the first Asian-American to run for U.S. President.” [@womenshistory] It’s important we celebrate ourselves out loud, and that we also celebrate the women who helped make it okay to do so. Thank you to all the women - the trailblazers, the freedom fighters, the justice seekers, the extraordinary and remarkable humans - that we can look to and draw strength from. Our legacy is in the knowledge we pass and the roads we build for others to walk upon long after we’re gone ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #womeninhistory
Change does not come from a singular something. It Change does not come from a singular something. It comes from all things. Never forget that you are an important part of the change equation. We need ALL lanes of work to create real, lasting change. “Ready to have your mind blown? Change does not come from something. It comes from all things. The insides, the outsides, the marriage of the two. There is possibility for change everywhere, and you never know for sure where you’ll find it.” -@womenagainstnegativetalk #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #makeshifthappen
Maybe you’ve heard of #toxicpositivity...but how Maybe you’ve heard of #toxicpositivity...but how about PRAGMATIC positivity? Positivity isn’t about “making things okay,” or always looking at the “bright side.” No - that kind of positivity is empty, and dangerous. That kind of so-called positivity turns us away from reality, hinders our own growth (how can we learn and grow if we only know the brightest sides and bests?), and not just silences but completely invalidates the voices and experiences of others. #SpiritualBypassing and #toxicpositivity go hand in hand and get us nowhere. True positivity is rooted in PRAGMATISM. It’s rooted in reality, critical thinking, practical application, results, and consequences. Pragmatic Positivity recognizes the full spectrum of the human experience - the high highs, low lows, and everything in between - and chooses to move FORWARD proactively instead of retreating or turning away REACTIVELY. Toxic Positivity is problematic. But in order to do anything about ANYTHING that’s problematic, we must talk about the problem...AND work to identify and amplify solutions. Pragmatic Positivity is an anecdote to Toxic Positivity. Pass it on. 👉🏽Type YES if you agree ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
“Fearless is when the fear is less than the fait “Fearless is when the fear is less than the faith” isn’t just a power phrase - it’s also an equation. Lowering your fear is super hard. And tbh, we’d never advise anyone to write over their fear, and definitely wouldn’t ever order them to just “think positive” and ignore the rest. Fear is there for a reason. It’s a human emotion, just like the rest of them - anger, sadness, joy, etc - and each has its place and space. _ But...upping your faith? That’s simple. And there’s no more powerful way to tip the scales than to list out the ways you have faith in yourself. _ Every tiny thing you have faith in - notice it. It counts. And slowly, the fear-to-faith scales start to tip from the fear over to the faith ✨ What do you have faith in today when it comes to yourself? _ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
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Phrase of the week: LFG. 𝑳𝑬𝑻’𝑺. 𝑭𝑼𝑪𝑲𝑰𝑵. 𝑮𝑶. LET’S as in me. LET’S as in you. LET’S as in us, together. FUCKIN as in It’s Time. FUCKIN as in The Best Time To Make A Difference Was Yesterday. FUCKIN as in The Next Best Time Is Right Now. GO as in ACT. GO as in SPEAK. GO as in DECIDE. GO as in VOTE. GO as in BLAZE THAT TRAIL. LFG. For RBG. For each other. For our destiny. For our legacy. Feel free to drop your definition of LFG in the comments. Let your mind marinate in it. Let it infiltrate your dreams tonight. And when you wake tomorrow morning, when the new week begins, L wake with that fire in our bellies to FG. Clear eyes, full heart, masks on, can’t lose. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #lfg
This first one REALLY got me 👀 How many times h This first one REALLY got me 👀 How many times have you been told to “be unique???” How many times have you thought you need to be “special” in order to get ahead, make the friends, find the partner, or whatever you want in life? WHAT IF...it’s all just about being YOURSELF? What if being who you are is exactly what makes you shine, and trying to be unique or special actually ATROPHIES all those brilliant nuances that make you YOU? Author and self-care pioneer @jenlouden and I decided to do a 30 minute jam session tomorrow (Friday) on IG LIVE at 1:30pm EST. We’ll be talking all about how to deal with procrastination, fears, and making decisions that are right for you. Raise your hand if you need Jen’s wisdom re one or all of those things 🙋🏽‍♀️ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #beyou Psssst....if you haven’t listened to her episode of the #WANTcast yet, download it today. Just trust me in this one.
🎉 𝗩𝗜𝗥𝗧𝗨𝗔𝗟 𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙 🎉 𝗩𝗜𝗥𝗧𝗨𝗔𝗟 𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙-𝗧𝗔𝗟𝗞 𝗪𝗢𝗥𝗞𝗦𝗛𝗢𝗣 𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗦 𝗪𝗘𝗘𝗞𝗘𝗡𝗗 🎉 Whether it’s using detergent bottles as dumbbells 💪🏽 figuring out how to homeschool your kids 📚 or just trying to manage your stress levels, 2020 has been forcing us to find solutions as we navigate situations we’ve never experienced before. And no matter how much work you’ve done or how self-aware you are....that kind of (and magnitude of) uncertainty will take a MAJOR hit to your self-talk patterns. THIS SATURDAY at 1PM EST, come join me for 𝗡𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗗𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗼𝗿-𝗡𝗼𝘄 𝗡𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗹 - a virtual self-talk workshop hosted by @aaptiv!! This workshop is based on my years of self-talk studies, plus the last few months of coaching so many individuals through making shift happen when it all feels like too much. WHAT: I’ve created a 75-minute workshop for you to help you create structure from scratch (especially if WFH has become more like WTF), maximize your energy, and get ahead of fear, self-doubt, and overwhelm - plus how to tackle them when they arise. WHEN: 9/19 1-2:15pm est HOW MUCH: Tickets are offered on a sliding scale of $5, $10, and $15 - pick the price that aligns with your comfort level right now, because what’s “doable” looks different for everyone right now. And YES, THERE WILL BE A REPLAY sent to anyone who buys a ticket!!!! 🎉 Link in bio and in my Stories. Drop a 🎉 if you’re attending, and share it with anyone you think might need it! Oh...I’ll also be doing a Q&A filled with YOUR questions. So tell me tell me: what topic or question do you have when it comes to shifting your self-talk, building confidence, and making mindset moves? Tell me in the comments. I’m all ears. (Er....eyes.) 👀 #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk p.s. I now think I...PREFER home workouts with detergent bottles??? WHO AM I!!?
✨Are your actions a reflection of what you stand ✨Are your actions a reflection of what you stand for, or are they a reflection of the loopholes? 👀🤗 Sure, tell me what you believe. But then show me what you do, and compare the two. Asking “what should I do?” is skipping steps. You’ve got to first ask yourself “What do I value?” But that’s not enough. Then it’s time for the self-audit. Take a look at what you do. What’s in alignment? What doesn’t match up? Are you willing to pivot when you discover misalignments, or do you lean on “well, BUT...” to stay put? What do you value...and how do you show that? #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #mindset #pleasegodvote
You never know who is struggling and suffering sil You never know who is struggling and suffering silently. This post is for that person. Maybe it’s you. There are dark days, weeks, months, even years. They can and will pass. You are not a burden, and you have so many people in your corner who’ve got your back. Please stay here to see how your one wild and precious life will unfold. I’ll bet you your story will be pretty damn spectacular. “Will you join in our crusade? Who will be strong and stand with me? Somewhere beyond the barricade Is there a world you long to see? Do you hear the people sing? Say, do you hear the distant drums? It is the future that they bring When tomorrow comes” -Les Misérables #worldsuicidepreventionday #suicidepreventionmonth #suicidepreventionday #suicidepreventionawarenessmonth #natuonalsuicidepreventionweek #nami If you or a loved one need help call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800) 273-8255. Reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. You’ve got this and you’re very very loved 💛
🎉 𝙃𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮 5️⃣ 𝙔𝙚𝙖𝙧 🎉 𝙃𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮 5️⃣ 𝙔𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝘼𝙣𝙣𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙖𝙧𝙮 𝙏𝙤 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝘼𝙉𝙏𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩! 🎉 Over the last half-decade, we’ve talked about: Facing your fears, Creative depressions, Personality types (astrology, human design, Myers Briggs, and more), Body image, Trauma, Sex education, Speaking up, Racism, Sexism, Ableism, Ageism, Jealousy, Forgiveness, Visions, Dreams, Goals, Self-doubt, Self-worth, Anxiety, Overwhelm, Mental illness, Ghost worries, Circumstantial happiness, Experiential longing, Fat-phobia, Body neutrality, Addiction, Recovery, Through lines, Grief, Boundaries, Planned Freak-Outs, Self love, Self like... ...and so much more that IG won’t let me include because of character limits 😜 I don’t do things by the book 👀 but I attribute the #WANTcast’s longevity to sticking to these rules: 🎙 Pick a schedule that works for you and don’t be afraid to alter it when it no longer does. Refuse to sacrifice the quality of experience for the quantity of episodes. 🎙 Analytics are overrated. DONT look at analytics to tell you how good your pod is. DO look at analytics to get information about what kinds of content people are loving the most, so you can make more of it. 🎙 Begin with clarity of vision, model, and purpose AND be willing to pivot to serve the greater vision. I promise you that if you’ve developed a close relationship with your community, they’ll most likely be on board and be able to see the bigger picture. 🎙 Do it because you love it. Do it because it’s fun. Do it because it’s a fit for you. 🎙 There are no rules 🙃 (other than to stay in integrity by constantly re-assessing if your intentions align with your impact) THANK YOU to all the guests who have made the WANTcast as dynamic as it is, to @ninapollockmusic who edits like a boss, and to ALL OF YOU - the WANTcast listeners. You are the reason the WANTcast exists. Thank you for allowing me and our guests into your ears and your lives 💛 New ep with @jenlouden drops tmrw, but in the meantime, tell me: who would you LOVE to hear on the WANTcast? What topics do you want more of? Pie-in-the-sky requests! Tell me in the comments and I’ll do my best to make it happen 👇🏽🎙👀🤞🏽
One of the most difficult things during the #forno One of the most difficult things during the #fornownormal: not being able to share life events with community. One of the best things during the #fornownormal: drawing out those celebrations as long as possible 🎉 Everyone asks why I’m still basically as strict as I am even though NYC is “doing so well,” and among other reasons, this is why. I knew I wanted to see my nephew when it was possible for me to, and I wasn’t going to risk that opportunity for something else that’s trivial in comparison. 2020 has been the year of massive #prioritization. And if I’ve learned one thing in 2020, I’ve learned that my priority is: my community. What I do affects you, and what you do affects me, and what we do affects the rest of us. We’re all way more connected than we thought - it’s just a shame that it took a global crisis to make us realize it. Important to note that all the proper pandemictime precautions were taken and then some for this solo trip -😷🧼🧴🧪🧤etc etc etc - @glographics did a GREAT post on 7/19 about covid travel prep that includes all the things; go bookmark it. (also make sure to test/distance upon arriving home!) There are a lot of us connected on here, and I don’t take that lightly. If you’re going to travel, travel sparingly, and when you do, travel responsibly. Glo’s guide is a MUST follow. The real news though?? Meet my nephew, Ford!! 😍 Likes: “Rain On Me,” laughing, mirrors, @dodgers. Dislikes: pandemics. Also, this face. I can’t. Being in NYC while he was an almost-cooked bun-in-the-oven and then through his first months of life was so difficult, but another thing I’ve learned is to not let mourning the time we DIDNT have overpower experiencing the time we DO have to the fullest. I got to give my mom the biggest bday surprise she’s had in a while (legit whistle-tone screams when I walked into the room 😂) and I got to cuddle with my new little pal. All those months of FOMO went away in mere MOments...moments made all the sweeter because of the mindful lead-up. This post is a BIG mishmosh of thoughts + musings but really I just wanted to crowd-source tips for how to be the best cross-country Auntie that ever Auntie'd. TY in advance👇🏽👀
We’re officially past the 2/3rds mark of 2020, a We’re officially past the 2/3rds mark of 2020, and what I hope is this: 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝘄 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗵𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗵𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗜𝗡𝗧𝗘𝗚𝗥𝗜𝗧𝗬. Intent is not much if the impact doesn’t align.‬ ‪“But I meant this to be...” isn’t a valid argument.‬ ‪If you want something to have a certain effect and it doesn’t, and you’re not willing to change the action to get the intended impact, then it wasn’t ever really about the intention at all.‬ ‪ Integrity: when your intentions and your impact are in alignment. When what you think, what you say, and what you do actually match up. 〰️ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #integrity #selftalk (pssssst...follow along at @womenagainstnegativetalk for more like this 👀)
I call this one: My Case For Why You Should STILL I call this one: My Case For Why You Should STILL replace NEW NORMAL with FOR-NOW NORMAL ⬇️ (Yes...STILL!!!!) We are in the midst of the storm that is Transition. And NOW Normal isn’t the same as THEN Normal. At the same time, it’s definitely not the same as what Normal WILL BE months from now, when the dust settles, we emerge from our doors, and enter a truly post-pandemic society. (And hug. It’ll be so, so wonderful to hug.) The words we choose to describe the time we’re in *matter.* Saying that this is our “New Normal” implies that the Now is the Forever…which it’s definitely not 😐 “But it’s been 5/6/7/etc months!!” you say. Yeah, I know! I’ve been here too! I want it to be the New Normal too, trust me. But I also know that any measures we’re seeing put into place right now are temporary. When I hear people upset that they have to wear a mask when they workout (at the gyms that just opened) or wait in massive lines of minimal people at the grocery story (because #physicaldistancing) I can’t help but wonder if they’re missing the point. This isn’t about all we can’t do. It’s about all we’ve always had that we’ve taken for granted for way too long, and about what we haven’t had for far too long that just isn’t Just. This is not about going back to where we were and HOW we were. That way wasn’t ever working, too many of us were just too engrained in our patterns and habits to notice. This is about using this time to do something useful that will help build a stronger collective. Especially right now, in this transitional season. Whether that’s wearing a mask out of respect for + protection of others, or using your voice because people are actually listening...this is not a moment to sleep on. Maybe, JUST MAYBE, because of those For-Now Normal realizations, we’ll actually get to work building a New Normal based not on doing what’s easiest in the moment but what’s rightest in the long run. #fornownormal #womenagainstnegativetalk
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The one question to ask yourself when you start to The one question to ask yourself when you start to spiral down the REGRET rabbit hole 🌀 Regret helps us course-correct so we can do better next time...but since it feels so uncomfortable, we often miss the opportunity for growth and change. Don’t let the challenge of the moment keep you from the change that’s on the other side ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #regret
This week’s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recog This week’s recognition: THE TIME IS NOW. Recognitions feel like statements of what is already true and present. While mantras can sometimes feel like the “fake it” part of “fake it till you make it,” recognitions recognize that there is no faking it, because you’ve already got all the tools you need to “make it.” Do you know how to use all the tools yet? Probably-almost-definitely-not. As @gloriasteinem says, making a fool of yourself is absolutely essential, and when you’re figuring out how to do, use, or BE for the first time, you certainly make a fool of yourself. That’s part of the process. But you have the tools. They’re there. And if they’re not, you have what you need to figure out how to fill in the gaps. Whether it’s knowledge, skill, or the ability to get curious and ask the important questions - the TIME IS NOW to use the tools you’ve got. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #gloriasteinem #justdoit #growthmindset🌱
The most important story you will ever tell is the The most important story you will ever tell is the one you tell to yourself, about your Self ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
✨FREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSON ✨FREEDOM, STRUCTURE + FLOW w/ DAIGI-ANN THOMPSON✨ For the first time on the WANTcast, we’re interviewing a spoken word artist…and then she is PERFORMING her piece here on the show. We were so moved, and know you will be too. @theperfect_dai is an actress, dancer, spoken word poet and fitness instructor from The Bronx, New York by way of Jamaica. \Writing poetry since she was 12 years old and performing spoken word since 2012, she performs under the stage moniker, The Perfect Dai. In this episode we talk about the importance of creativity during tumultuous times (and how creativity might come in unexpected forms), being multi-passionate, the balance between structure and freedom, and more. 🎧 Listen on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever you access your favorite podcasts. #WANTyourself #WANTcast #womenagainstnegativetalk
When you’re in the negative self-talk loop of ‘I’m trying and it’s not enough,’ ‘I’m so behind,’ or even just ‘Why does this have to be so hard,” try this reframe: 𝗗𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝘁…𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒏𝒆𝒙𝒕. The what’s next part is so important here. Because sometimes (not always, but sometimes) when we focus so intently on the ‘what we’ve got’ part, we forget to look forward. Life is a dance between the past, the present, and the future – doing the best with what we’ve got and the best for what’s next encompasses all three. We’re doing in the present, working with what the past has brought us, and building toward the future. This past-present-future mindset not only allows you to embrace where you’ve been and where you are, but also look for ways you can enhance and improve life – your own AND others’ – in the future. Maybe that looks like filming that video with your phone or computer cam so that you get into a groove, instead of lamenting/waiting to have “better equipment.” Maybe that means Googling how to create a nourishing meal with what’s already in your pantry (which will spark creativity you can utilize for future meals no matter your budget!) instead of getting frustrated your budget isn’t wide enough for the fancy ingredients you see on @instagram. Maybe it’s something else. Whatever it is - do the BEST with what you’ve GOT and the BEST for WHAT’S NEXT. #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #comparisonquotes #justdoit #growthmindset #selfcare #selfworth
👉🏽WOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink 👉🏽WOMEN YOU SHOULD KNOW: Patsy Takemodo Mink “In 1959 when Hawaii became a U.S. State, Patsy Mink knew she wanted to run for a position in government. Little did she know, she would become the first woman of color elected to the U.S. House of Representatives and the first Asian-American woman to serve in Congress. In addition to writing bills like Title IX, the Early Childhood Education Act, and the Women's Educational Equity Act, Mink was the first Asian-American to run for U.S. President.” [@womenshistory] It’s important we celebrate ourselves out loud, and that we also celebrate the women who helped make it okay to do so. Thank you to all the women - the trailblazers, the freedom fighters, the justice seekers, the extraordinary and remarkable humans - that we can look to and draw strength from. Our legacy is in the knowledge we pass and the roads we build for others to walk upon long after we’re gone ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #womeninhistory
Change does not come from a singular something. It Change does not come from a singular something. It comes from all things. Never forget that you are an important part of the change equation. We need ALL lanes of work to create real, lasting change. “Ready to have your mind blown? Change does not come from something. It comes from all things. The insides, the outsides, the marriage of the two. There is possibility for change everywhere, and you never know for sure where you’ll find it.” -@womenagainstnegativetalk #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk #makeshifthappen
Maybe you’ve heard of #toxicpositivity...but how Maybe you’ve heard of #toxicpositivity...but how about PRAGMATIC positivity? Positivity isn’t about “making things okay,” or always looking at the “bright side.” No - that kind of positivity is empty, and dangerous. That kind of so-called positivity turns us away from reality, hinders our own growth (how can we learn and grow if we only know the brightest sides and bests?), and not just silences but completely invalidates the voices and experiences of others. #SpiritualBypassing and #toxicpositivity go hand in hand and get us nowhere. True positivity is rooted in PRAGMATISM. It’s rooted in reality, critical thinking, practical application, results, and consequences. Pragmatic Positivity recognizes the full spectrum of the human experience - the high highs, low lows, and everything in between - and chooses to move FORWARD proactively instead of retreating or turning away REACTIVELY. Toxic Positivity is problematic. But in order to do anything about ANYTHING that’s problematic, we must talk about the problem...AND work to identify and amplify solutions. Pragmatic Positivity is an anecdote to Toxic Positivity. Pass it on. 👉🏽Type YES if you agree ✨ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
“Fearless is when the fear is less than the fait “Fearless is when the fear is less than the faith” isn’t just a power phrase - it’s also an equation. Lowering your fear is super hard. And tbh, we’d never advise anyone to write over their fear, and definitely wouldn’t ever order them to just “think positive” and ignore the rest. Fear is there for a reason. It’s a human emotion, just like the rest of them - anger, sadness, joy, etc - and each has its place and space. _ But...upping your faith? That’s simple. And there’s no more powerful way to tip the scales than to list out the ways you have faith in yourself. _ Every tiny thing you have faith in - notice it. It counts. And slowly, the fear-to-faith scales start to tip from the fear over to the faith ✨ What do you have faith in today when it comes to yourself? _ #womenagainstnegativetalk #WANTyourself #selftalk
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