WANTcast 050: Dealing With Jealousy + Wanting What You Don’t Have
Reframing and reworking jealousy has been a GAME CHANGER for me. I’m highly sensitive, so jealousy isn’t just wanting what I don’t have: it’s also feeling BAD about wanting it, feeling GUILTY for spending time wanting it, and feeling like a lame person for focusing on it instead of focusing on “uplifting others.” It sends me into a shame spiral, and I don’t get anything done when I’m in a shame spiral.
There’ a saying that goes “Jealousy works the opposite way you want it to.” And it’s true: without a sense of control over your own jealousy, it pushes people away, squelches opportunity, and is one of the most effective forms of self-sabotage.
Yet learning to harness your jealousy can actually inform you of an important missing link, the most important element in any relationship.
On today’s episode, I’m going to share a few strategies that have worked for me. Find yourself prey to your own jealous mind? Here’s what to do.
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