The WANT Women: Erin Bagwell on Determination, Depression, and Dreaming Big

The WANT Women: Erin Bagwell on Determination, Depression, and Dreaming Big

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As a brand new New Yorker (well…I’m getting there!), I’m realizing now more than ever the power in the pack. Whether it’s a group of tight-knit friends or just familiar faces walking through the gym, I feel the most productive, passionate, and generaly my very best self when I am surrounded by like-minded souls. Call it a tribe, call it a community, call it whatever you want – there is so much that comes to life, both within and outside us, when we find our peeps.

For my entire adult life, I’ve been searching for that thing to call my own. When WANT was born, it was like finding a piece of myself I didn’t know was able to exist. I wanted to be a leader, but didn’t want to be my then-boss. I wanted to help women be their fullest, most actualized selves, but I didn’t want to be a “life coach.” I wanted to write, to speak, to make, to shift, but I didn’t want to be a “freelancer.” I only knew how I wanted to feel, what I wanted to shift, and why I knew I needed to do it. I was craving a space to create major change – but I didn’t know how it would come to life.

A big part of this? I wasn’t seeing or hearing stories of women like me – women who wanted to create, expand, and flourish…on their own terms.

Oh how I wish the messages and mission in Dream, Girl had been around to carry with me in my back pocket during that intense (and confusing!) period of my life.

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Dream, Girl is a documentary that tells the inspiring stories of female entrepreneurs and CEOs in order to empower the next generation of girl bosses to dream bigger. It follows the stories of these amazing, ambitious women who work in everything from brand new startups to million dollar industries. The Dream, Girl mission is all about showing girls what it means to be a leader, not just telling them they can be anything they want and leaving it there.

You might remember meeting Dream, Girl’s producer Komal on the WANTcast earlier this year.

Today, just one week shy of Dream, Girl’s official premiere, we’re diving in and digging deep with Dream, Girl’s director and creator, Erin Bagwell.
I wish that more women became their own role models. - @erinebagwell, @dreamgirlfilm Click To Tweet
Erin is a feminist blogger and filmmaker from Brooklyn. After founding Feminist Wednesday, a feminist storytelling blog, and conducting numerous interviews with female founders and CEOS, she realized there was a huge gap to fill when it came to inspiring women to be bolder, bet higher, and truly blaze their own path. The idea for Dream, Girl was born – and after raising over $100K on Kickstarter in less than one month, Erin, Komal, and the Dream, Girl team were officially making moves.

Fast forward to today, and Dream, Girl has been covered by Forbes, Upworthy, The Huffington Post, Fox Business, Elle Magazine, and more. Erin and Komal have been featured by Clinique in their #smartideas campaign in partnership with TED. And if that wasn’t enough, the final product has been screened at the freaking White House – all before its official premiere at the Paris Theater in NYC on June 9th.

Watching Erin’s dream come to life has inspired me in a way I’ve never been inspired before: here is a woman around my age, who thinks like me, talks like me, and dreams like me. Here is a woman who had a seed of an idea and the bravery to put in the heavy lifting to make it blossom. Here is a woman who is badass to the bone, inclusive to the core, and maybe most importantly, believes in what is possible when we believe in not only each other, but ourselves.
My body is my center, my shell, my gift wrap, my powerhouse. -@erinebagwell, @dreamgirlfilm Click To Tweet
Being a woman is like being a part of a collective. We’re not just forces to be reckoned with, we’re leaders in our own right who are able to shift the world by working in unison. We are inherently inclusive by nature, although the society we live in sometimes seems like it would rather us exclude others and compete for space. Dream, Girl shows us our fellow women, our fellow tribemates, our fellow LEADERS, all defining their own hustle and lifting other women up with them along the way.

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WANT ERIN.

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Name: Erin Bagwell


How you’d know me (occupation or role): Founder of Feminist Wednesday (a feminist storytelling blog powered by beavers) & the Director of Dream, Girl (the documentary showcasing the stories of inspiring and ambitious female entrepreneurs)


What I love about myself (and why): My determination and ability to get things accomplished. I don’t spend a lot of time questioning myself or why I want to do something – I just do it.


What is your definition of “positivity?” Being grateful.


When did you start to love yourself – did you have a self-love “turning point?” I’m constantly discovering and exploring self-love. I make it a practice to try to find things that inspire and keep me passionate, which gravitates me towards a lot of love.


How/where negative talk shows up in my life: When I stop doing the work and start questioning if I’m the person who should be doing it.


When I talk negatively about myself, it’s usually… About financial instability and money.


When others talk negatively about themselves… I tune it out :-p

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It baffles me that women still… Get paid less, get objectified, fear walking home at night, get genitally mutilated, become child brides, fear being a woman.


I wish that more women… Became their own role models.


The coolest thing about women is… That their stories are still waiting to be unearthed.


My favorite way to shift a negative into a positive: To be grateful for what I have.


My top female role models: My mother and my business partner Komal Minhas


Men can help women crush their negative talk patterns by… I think it depends who the man is and what his role is in her life. I think negative talk stems from a personal burden or scar that one must heal on her own, so just listening and being supportive and not judgmental would be nice?


Favorite negativity-busting activity: Meditating


Fave self-love ritual: Getting my nails done


Favorite feel-good food(s): Ramen or french fries


Favorite movie(s) to watch when I’m feeling down: Sex & the City (not a movie but my favorite thing to turn on anytime)


Favorite empowering book(s): Big Magic, The life-changing magic of tidying up


My feel-good playlist: No Nets

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Advice I would give my
…4 year old self: keep crushing
…14 year-old self: depression isn’t something you should be ashamed of
…24 year old self: keep looking for what inspires you


5 Things, personal or professional, on my bucket list:
– have a child
– win an oscar
– buy a house
– make a million dollars
– produce 20 films in my lifetime


My best tip on self love: Forgive yourself


When I truly love all of myself… I allow myself to have fun and be goofy


Right now, I am most excited about… FINISHING THIS MOVIE


My body is: My center, my shell, my gift wrap, my powerhouse


Three words to describe me: Creative, passionate, hard working


Current mantra: Let it go

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The WANTcast, Episode 012: On INFJs, Deflecting Bad Juju + Being A Highly Sensitive Person w/ Jenn Granneman Of Introvert, Dear

The WANTcast, Episode 012: On INFJs, Deflecting Bad Juju + Being A Highly Sensitive Person w/ Jenn Granneman Of Introvert, Dear

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I am an emotional sponge.

I walk into a room and can instantly feel whether people are relaxed or tense. I can speak two words to you and feel what’s going on. And you can bet yer bottom dollar that I internalize whatever energy is swirling around me.

For the longest time, I felt like an outsider – and truly weirded out by the fact that things as small as people laying on their car horns in rush-hour traffic would leave me shaken for a good few minutes.

And then I found out that not only was I not alone, but that I could work with what I’ve got – and it was my greatest asset in this world.

Those ideas that you think can change the world? You should start doing them. - @IntrovertDear Click To Tweet

If you’ve been reading and listening for a while, it *probably* doesn’t come as a surprise to you that I’m into personality tests, personality indicators, and the psychology behind personality types. I find any chance to learn more about the inner workings of others, and myself, absolutely fascinating.

About 6 years ago, I stumbled upon the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (here’s one you can take for free!), took the test, and the results completely blew my mind. Now EVERYTHING started to make sense.

Then I read a book that was recommended to me called the Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. I think I cried when I read it the first time through. Because again, this was so much of who I was – that I was either trying to fight against or was struggling to understand/make others understand – I had just never had words to describe it.

Give yourself permission to feel vulnerable and do what you need to do. - @IntrovertDear Click To Tweet

Introvert, Dear is the #1 website and community dedicated to introverted personality types AND HSPs. This site is followed by literally hundreds of thousands, the community is SO strong, and it’s a resource that’s really helped me when it comes to not just understanding why I am the way I am, but communicating who I am to others (and understanding THEM better, too).

Introvert Dear is the brainchild of Jenn Granneman, a teacher, writer, introvert expert, and fellow INFJ/HSP. So basically, I knew I had to have her on the podcast (especially since I get asked so often what the heck these acronyms even mean).

Here’s the deal, in a nutshell: Myers Briggs personality types are broken down into four components – introverted vs extroverted, intuitive vs sensing, thinking vs feeling, and perceiving vs judging.

A lot of people will just focus on the introvert/extrovert part of the equation, but Myers Briggs, and Jenn’s site, dissects the fine nuance between each specific combination.)

This is who you are. That's more than okay. That's GREAT. - @IntrovertDear Click To Tweet

There’s a big theme in this episode of the number one lesson every introvert (and HSP) needs to learn in order to thrive. Even if you’re not either, take a listen – we’ve all got a little bit of introvert in us, and WAY more of us are HSPs than we realize, we just never talk about it.

At the best, you’ll learn about yourself. At the very least, you’ll definitely learn about someone you care about.

Ready?

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The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
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Introvert Spring

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The WANTcast, Episode 011: On Skin Shame, Body Image + Kanye West Behavior With Adina Grigore of S.W. Basics

The WANTcast, Episode 011: On Skin Shame, Body Image + Kanye West Behavior With Adina Grigore of S.W. Basics

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She had me at “hello.” And by “hello”…I mean lip balm.

Today’s episode is with Adina Grigore, who, if you DON’T know, you’re going to WANT to know after we’re through here. Adina is the founder of S.W. Basics, one of my absolute FAVORITE all natural skincare lines – and the author of Skin Cleanse: The Simple, all-natural Program for Clean, Calm, Happy Skin.

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So, funny thing about me and Adina – I actually fell in love with her before I even met her, and what’s even weirder is that it wasn’t through social media or a podcast – it was because at my former editorial job, someone sent us a pack of her lip balms. You know how sometimes you’ll see someone from afar and think, I need to be friends with this woman? That’s how I felt when I saw the lip balms.

I know. What a weirdo, right? But here’s the thing: there was something so special and unique about the S.W. Basics brand that felt so personal, so down to earth, I knew that could only come from this badass woman founder who was steering the ship. This podcast is actually the very first time we talked, and I think you’ll be able to hear it, she just has this way of making you feel so at ease and like you’ve known her forever. It’s no wonder she’s in the business of making people feel good in the skin they’re in.

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In this episode we talk about the correlation between skin and body image, the trajectory that took her from dancing at The Ailey School to having a skincare line that’s in Target stores nationwide, dealing with skin issues as an adult and the stigma that surrounds it, and why Adina is so passionate about not doing this ONE specific thing that basically everyone does in order to grow their business (hint: it’s kind of like Kanye West’s behavior).

She also gets me being more of a Chatty Cathy than usual, but I couldn’t help myself – she’s one of those infectiously passionate and all around rad people you could talk to forever. (But I did you a favor and kept “forever” to under an hour.)

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Let’s do this thang!

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Show Notes:
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S.W. Basics makeup remover
Skin Cleanse
The Ailey School
Adina’s podcast with Jessica Murnane (and her other one, too!)

Adina’s blog post – “You’re Really Hot. No, Really.”
Womens Leadership Conference
WANTcast on Youtube!

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The WANTcast, Episode 010: On Letting Go Of The Life Weight with Jessica Murnane

The WANTcast, Episode 010: On Letting Go Of The Life Weight with Jessica Murnane

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Hold the phone. Stop the presses. We are, officially, IN THE DOUBLE DIGITS. When you’re creating one new pod every three weeks, getting to double digits feels like forever – so, to me, this is a huge deal (we’re heading towards the 6-month mark!).

Especially because of this one little not-so-secret: I was scared out of my mind to start this podcast. I had a smidge of sound editing experience under my belt, had NO clue how to record with someone over Skype, and forget about even getting the tech stuff up and running. This podcast has taught me to be ballsy and just make things happen – because once you’re ballsy a few times in a row, it starts to get easier and easier.

You don’t need to have a great following to be doing exceptional things. - @jessicamurnanes Click To Tweet

I will say, it’s a lot easier to be ballsy when you’ve got people in your corner. And today’s guest is a super special one, because she has been in WANT’s corner since literally the very first email conversation we had (she was actually the person who told me, “You HAVE TO START A PODCAST” and never let me forget she was waiting for it). She’s now become a dear friend of mine, a woman I admire endlessly – and, well, you probably already listen to her podcast religiously.

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Jessica Murnane is the wellness Wonder Woman behind JessicaMurnane.com, host of the wildly popular One Part Podcast, and, the MOST exciting, author of a soon-to-be released full-on plant-based cookbook with Harper-Wave in 2017!

If Jessica looks familiar, it might be because she’s been on WANT before. After being diagnosed with Endometriosis and receiving a pretty crazy ultimatum from her doctors, Jessica decided to try overhauling her diet to see if she could heal herself naturally. Fast forward to today, and Jessica now has zero of those debilitating endometriosis symptoms and follows a full-on plant based diet.

In this episode we talk about the HUGE thing on Jessica’s mind lately, something I don’t think we talk about nearly enough in our culture if even at all: letting go of the past and what that actually looks and feels like in the body. We also talk endo, mendo (yup), listening fiercely to your body, and Jessica’s refreshingly honest take on motherhood. (This episode also contains a little bit of quasi-gangsta-rap-language, so if you’re sensitive to that, you’ll be getting fair warning beforehand.)


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Are you ready for this? I am. On with the show!

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Show Notes:
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On Never Wanting To Be Pregnant (from jessicamurnane.com)
Jessica’s octopus plates
And just for fun: Watch Drake Perform At A Bat Mitzvah

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10th Episode Giveaway!

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WIN WANT SWAG! So, did you notice those rad little WANT tote bags we had at the WANTiversary party the other weekTo celebrate the 10th WANTcast, I’m giving away a WANT tote bag (first edition, y’all), plus some of the awesome swag it was filled with at the party to two lucky WANT Women!

To enter, sign up for the WANT newsletter here, then leave a comment on this post telling me your favorite guest, topic, or takeaway from the first ten episodes of the WANTcast. Extra entries if you follow @katiehorwitch and @jessicamurnane on Instagram – just let me know you did in your comment.

Two lucky winners will be chosen at random this Sunday, February 27th at 9pm PST. Crossing my fingers for you!


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Mala Mala Beads, Y’all: Your Ultimate WANT Guide To Wearable Intentions

Mala Mala Beads, Y’all: Your Ultimate WANT Guide To Wearable Intentions

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I know, I know – we talked earlier this month about rethinking resolutions, but even if you’re staying mindful, there’s something about the jolt of January excitement that can leave you a little burnt-out come mid-month.

I know that for me, coming down from the high that is the holiday season usually means turning inward, reflecting on the twelve months past, and gearing up for a whole new adventure. It can be a challenge to shift gears so suddenly, especially when the tree’s still up and there may or may not still be gingerbread men in the fridge calling my name (no comment). I love the holidays and hate for them to end… which is why it’s extra important for me to surround myself with things that remind me of who I am and where I’m going in order to prep for an intention-filled new year.

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Mala beads and Entrepreneur Barbie. Obviously the best birthday prezzies ever.

Blooming Lotus Jewelry is a brand that specializes in just that: mala beads that each carry a special meaning and intention. Think of a mala as a wearable resolution. Malas have been used for centuries to help their owners set intentions, meditate in the moment and get in touch with what they truly want to manifest in their lives.

I’ve been looking for a mala for what seems like eons, and the one I got from Blooming Lotus for my birthday could not have been more appropriate. I was four days away from leaving my job and going off on my own, just WANT and I, and I’d also just gotten some big news about the year ahead. Basically, my head was spinning and I wasn’t quite sure if it was excitement, birthday cake, or fear of the unknown. Just wearing my mala makes me feel more grounded in who I am, and gives me a visual reminder to keep my daily intentions in check – quite the feat for just a little string of beads.

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I recently sat down with Blooming Lotus’ lovely founder Jennifer Ciraulo on The Chalkboard to find out more about the malas I love so much – and how you can DIY your own for the brand new year. Because I’m a sucker for personalized gear, and it doesn’t get much more personal than this. A bubble of bright energy, I’m so lucky to have Jenn in my life and her malas to help remind me how much awesomeness women are putting out into the world right now – all of you included.

WOMEN AGAINST NEGATIVE TALK: What’s the significance of 108 beads?

JENNIFER CIRAULO: It is said that there are 108 reasons why 108 is a sacred number. A few:
-It is said that there are 108 energy lines that converge to form the heart chakra.
-It is said that there are 108 Indian Goddess names
-The diameter of the sun is 108 times the diameter of the earth
-There are 54 letters in the Sanskrit alphabet…each having a masculine and feminine (Shiva and Shakti). 54 times 2 is 108.
-In astrology, silver is thought to represent the moon…the atomic weight of the silver is 108.

WANT: What is the Guru bead?

JC: The Guru bead represents your teacher(s) in life and also the teacher within yourself. During a Japa meditation cycle, this is where you pause, reflect and give thanks to your teachers and the teacher within you. If you choose to do another cycle of meditation, you reverse the direction and never cross over the Guru bead as that would be seen as stepping on your teacher.

WANT: How can I meditate with my mala?

JC: Mala beads can be used to help keep count of your mantras during what’s called a Japa meditation cycle. During Japa meditation, you recite your mantra on each bead, going around the entire mala to reach 108 repetitions of that mantra. Through Japa meditation, you will become more aware of your intentions.

Your mala is a physical reminder of your intention! You will be surprised how attached you will be to your mala and the energy it brings. Sometimes when life gets crazy, you need to bring it back to you! Wear your mala, meditate with your mala or place it in a special place as a reminder of your intentions, dreams and where you want to go. Wear your intention and let it support your soul. They are gentle reminders that will keep you feeling like you!

More from Jenn:

Before you choose a mala or make your own: Give thought to what meaning you want for your mala so you can choose the appropriate gemstone. Think about where you are in your life at this present moment and also where you want to be. What are you dreams? Choose gemstones that align with you! For example, are you looking for love or does your heart need healing, do you want to be able express yourself better or communicate your needs, do you need grounding, confidence, or creative energy, etc.?

Some ideas:
For Love: Choose rose quartz, green aventurine, rhodonite, or rhodochrosite
For Communication and speaking your truth: Choose amazonite or aquamarine
For Grounding: Choose onyx, black quartz, or hematite
For Fertility: Choose moonstone, rose quartz, carnelian, or lava stone
For Clarity: clear quartz, amethyst, or tiger’s eye

Want to make one? This version is a hand-knotted tassel mala but you can choose the 108 beads that fit your intention. There is a lot of labor that goes into a hand-knotted mala. Expect to spend 1 to 1.5 hours or more if this is your first time making a mala:
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DIY WANT MALA:

You’ll need:
108 beads (recommended size: 6mm-8mm)
1 guru bead (this bead lies outside the circle of 108, above the tassel)
3 counter/marker beads (optional – these are not included in the 108; these beads are often slightly larger or different in surface texture or shape)
string/cord (recommended thickness: 0.7mm-1mm)
tassel
tiny spacer beads (optional)
Crazy Glue
glue for knot (fabric cement is recommended, to allow for flexibility)
scissors or cutters
options to cleanse your mala (sage, singing bowl, Tingsha bells, etc.)
a whole lot of love and intention

Directions:

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Step 1: Gather 110 inches of cord. Snip ends of cord on an angle as best you can. Use Crazy Glue to make both ends pointy and needle-like; gently rolling between your fingers, being very mindful not to glue your fingers together! Loop cord through tassel, making sure both sides of cord are equal in length. String both ends of the cord through the guru bead. Slide guru bead down toward tassel. Optional: Add a tiny spacer bead on each cord and slide to the top of Guru bead.

Please read through remaining steps before continuing so you know what’s to come. This will prevent any errors and avoid any unknotting and backtracking.

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Step 2: Adding beads & knotting: Note: each side will have 54 mala beads, plus the optional counter beads if you have chosen to add them. Make a knot on top of each bead, sliding the knot as close as possible to the bead. Add a bead. Knot tightly above the bead. Add a bead. Knot. Repeat. *If you have chosen to add counter beads (optional), please see step below. If you chose not to use counter beads, your final knot will be exactly between the 54 beads on each side of mala (at nape of the neck).

*Optional counter/marker beads: Shown in these photos are counter beads located at the 18th and 54th stations. There are other options, but for this mala, we will place counter beads at the 18th and 54th stations.

Step 3: One side of mala: add 18 beads and 18 knots. Add one counter bead and one knot. Then continue with 36 more beads and 36 knots, which will put you exactly at ½ of the mala. Add one counter bead and a knot (this is the counter bead that will be at the nape of the neck). You have completed ½ of the mala.

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Step 4: Other side of mala: add 18 beads and 18 knots. Add one counter bead and one knot. Then continue with 34 beads (note 34 beads… you’ll see why in a moment) and 34 knots. At this point you should have only two beads left. Last step is the final knot. (Insert 54 beads on each side, plus optional counter bead collage.)

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Step 5: Final knot: Add one bead on EACH cord end. Knot between these two beads. Repeat the knot one more time so it’s secure. Add a dab of fabric cement glue to the knot on all sides. Snip excess cord.

Step 6: Wrap your arms around your body and squeeze: Congratulations! You just finished your first mala and deserve a hug.

*For tips on how to cleanse your mala, head over to TCM for more
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The WANTcast Episode 006: On Extroversion, Introversion + Rebranding Your Life with Jacki Carr

The WANTcast Episode 006: On Extroversion, Introversion + Rebranding Your Life with Jacki Carr

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Today’s WANTcast guest is someone who’s been on my list for a while now: goal coach Jacki Carr.

In a nutshell: Jacki’s become a highly sought-after pro in her arena who’s helped hundreds of people across the globe not only reach their goals, but actually craft exactly what those goals look like, why they matter, and a path to them that is unique to every single person – personal goals, professional goals, whatever.

I’ve met a lot of fantastic people over the internet through the years (holy jeez, just realized I made my first virtual friend at 12. Almost two decades. How did that happen?! [ps. it was a 14 year old girl who loved RENT as much as I did, natch]). What’s interesting about Jacki is that we actually should have met in person. We’ve got about a zillion mutual friends, from fitness instructors we’ve both worked with to former Lululemon employees (Jacki used to work for Lulu) to various personalities in the Venice/Santa Monica region (where we both called home for one point in time), even people I’ve met through work that I’d never expect to have a mutual connection with – Jacki is our mutual connection.

And it’s not hard to see why: Jacki is gregarious to the core and electricity personified. People who meet her are swept up by her enthusiastic and vivacious personality and get hooked on her attention connection. In other words, they come for the spark and stay for the soul. Jacki has the ability to bring out the best in whoever she meets, whether it’s in person or virtually.

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And yet, we’d never met. I was nervous to talk to her one-on-one for the very first time, as when you’ve connected with someone from afar you sometimes get nervous it won’t be that great in person…

Boy, was I wrong. We chatted like old friends, and it truly felt like I’d known her a lifetime ago. I know I’m not the only one who has felt this way, which is why I think Jacki is such a powerhouse: she makes everyone around her feel like family.

The way I structure my podcasts is very, very loosely – I do a bit of research, I gather a few points I’d like to discuss, and then we just go. I end up rarely needing my notes, as each conversation unfolds so beautifully and naturally, and the women on the WANTcast really have a knack for being a next-level open book. With Jacki, it was just like that. I’d read somewhere that she identified with being an extrovert while her best friend and business partner, Mary Beth LaRue, was an introvert, and as an introvert myself, I was curious to hear the other side of the story when it comes to relationships with different personality types. What unfolded was even better than what I could have imagined. Her husband, turns out, is an introvert as well, and Jacki and I got to dive into the nuances of what happens when we’re with our opposites, both in love and in life. Having grown up in an entirely extroverted family and always been attracted to extroverted personalities, I was sucked in by this (in a good way!).

Other big things we talked about? Making friends later in life. As Jacki put it, “making new friends in your 30s is gnarly.” She’s just relocated to Denver after living in LA for quite some time, and we got down and dirty into the topic of navigating life transitions, from business rebranding to personal rebranding to pregnancy and even those little-big stages we all go through in life. Basically, the through-line of this episode comes down to one thing: rebranding your life.

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What I love is that Jacki’s not a life coach, and she’s not a therapist, she’s got a passion for GOAL SETTING and ACHIEVING specifically that just exudes from every single thing she does. I found this episode not just uplifting… but I was sitting for a WHILE after this call reflecting on my own goals and visions, and how I can use what I’ve been given to make my own unique impact both personally and professionally. I thought about the stages I’ve been through, and what kinds of changes I might want to make in the future. Hopefully, it’ll do the same for you too.

*Little note: this is technically supposed to be the last episode of 2015, but I’m thinking that maybe we throw in an extra episode before the year is up! Not really sure what that looks like yet, but if you’d like that extra episode, shoot me a tweet, or leave me an Instagram comment and just say “YES!” I’ll know what you mean.

On with the show…

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