WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

WANTcast Episode 110: Freedom, Structure, and Flow with Daigi-Ann Thompson

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Most podcasts are just interviews OR solo episodes…cue that  song from Sweet Charity: there’s gotta be something OTHER than this! Don’t get me wrong, we LOVE interviews and solo episodes and they’ll continue to remain the bulk of our podcast episodes….but shifting your self-talk also requires activating your creative brain and getting inspired in unexpected ways.

For the first time on the WANTcast, we’re interviewing a spoken word artist…and then she is PERFORMING her piece here on the show. We were so moved, and know you will be too.

Daigi-Ann Thompson is an actress, dancer, spoken word poet and fitness instructor from The Bronx, New York by way of Jamaica. She grew up an athlete, running track and playing basketball up until college where she made the pivot and studied Theater and dance at Buffalo State College. Writing poetry since she was 12 years old and performing spoken word since 2012,  she performs under the stage moniker, The Perfect Dai. She has performed and won an open mic slam at the world renowned Nuyorican (noo-your-ee-can) Poet’s Cafe, performed on the No Boys Allowed Tour, a college performance tour for female emcees, poets and singers. She was also an original member of the NYC artist collective “Good Vibes Creative Minds,” a community of artists dedicated to curating experiences and events for POC creatives. She is also a part of the intergenerational new media collective Eres.you, a platform dedicated to empowering and uplifting folx of color. In addition to a commitment to movement and wellness, Daigi is also committed to a lifetime of inspiring action and progressive thought through creativity and will continue to share her gifts and voice with the world.
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This episode is in support of Small Projects Istanbul. Small Projects Istanbul is dedicated to helping those displaced by the conflict in the Middle East and North Africa, or the M.E.N.A. region, rebuild their lives. They do this through supporting community development, education and empowerment. Their Community Centre is designed to be a place of safety and belonging; and within this space they are committed to working with the community to ensure the best opportunities for families, students and individuals to reach their full potential in Istanbul and beyond. Within the Community Center, SPI strives to provide livelihood support opportunities through the establishment of a Women’s Social Enterprise, enabling skills development, income generation and economic integration. To get involved or to donate, visit smallprojectsistanbul.org

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WANTcast 051: On Going All In, Risk Tolerance, and Getting Out From Behind The Shadows with Amber Rae

WANTcast 051: On Going All In, Risk Tolerance, and Getting Out From Behind The Shadows with Amber Rae

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Ever felt like you’re being creative for everyone BUT yourself? Wondered if something is a sign, or just a sheer coincidence? Just wanted someone to tell you to take the leap, even though you don’t know for SURE what you’re leaping into?

Today’s guest is author, speaker, and artist Amber Rae, author of Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear And Doubt To Unlock Your Full Potential. In her book, Amber guides you to dialogue with the self-sabateur that is Worry, uncover the ways your unexplored emotions are leading you to numb out/procrastinate/hold yourself back, and access your inner wisdom to reach your full potential.

In this episode we talk about getting out from behind the shadows as a creative, how to know when you’re on the right track, how to distinguish between signs from the universe and stories youre fabricating, how to know when fear is leading the way, making a living through creativity and the many ways that can manifest, what it means and looks like to live out your truth, and so much more.

If you’ve been waiting for a sign – then maybe this episode is it.


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WANTcast 039: On Creative Postpartum, Making Money, and Dreamin Big with Erin Bagwell of Dream, Girl

WANTcast 039: On Creative Postpartum, Making Money, and Dreamin Big with Erin Bagwell of Dream, Girl

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We’re BACK!

In Episode 39 of the WANTcast, filmmaker Erin Bagwell and I discuss creative postpartum (aka what happens after you finish a project), setting goals after hitting a BIG goal, speaking up and making your voice heard in the workplace (and world), using your creativity to make a difference, making money and how that relates to feminism, and so much more. Plus, why I’ve been AWOL, and how to pick the Season Two finale of the WANTcast.

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Balancing Act: A Creative Gal’s Guide To The Daily Grind

Balancing Act: A Creative Gal’s Guide To The Daily Grind

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On one hand… you’ve got creativity running through your bloodstream. You think outside the box and see the world as one big art project waiting to happen. Whether you’re the kind of creative who writes, draws, sings, sews, photographs, or simply has a right-brained mind that just won’t quit, you have a unique way of looking at life that serves you in any situation.

On the other hand… a girl’s gotta eat. Five (or more) days a week, you do the work to pay the bills, and have a job you’re plugging away at – maybe even a full-blown career you’re carving out for yourself. You’re no stranger to the so-called daily grind: the traffic-jammed commute, the stressors of your job, the responsibilities that loom over your head as you hustle at work. Whether you are in love with your job or are just trying to get by, there’s one question most creative types have in common when it comes to the daily grind: do I have to give up my identity as an artist just to fit in?

Just because you’re a working girl doesn’t mean that you have to squash your creative impulses. If you’re not used to singing your own praises, this is a really good time to start: you have a special, visionary way of viewing the world that not only serves you, but serves all those around you.

Whether your daily grind is in an artistic field or not, here are four ways to honor your creative work, your 9-5 work…and still end the day feeling like you can do it all, just as you are:

• FIND THE LESSONS. If you’re the creative type, you probably love the process of learning and exploring new ideas or situations. Think back on when you were in school: each class was about learning something new, applying your knowledge, and then proving you’ve got it on lockdown. You might have had to play by the teacher’s rules in the classroom, but when it came to how you finished your homework or the way you studied for a test, that was all up to you. School, even though it’s usually about textbooks and facts, is actually the place a creative can shine.

Your daily work grind is exactly like going to school every day. Start to view each little project, meeting, task, or segment of your day as a lesson and ask yourself: what can I learn from this? If you’re always looking for the lessons, you’re always taking away something new, building your tool chest of skills and knowledge for whatever life throws at you, in or out of the office.

If you’re always looking for the lessons, you’re always taking away something new. Click To Tweet

• BE ALL THERE. This is one of my biggest tips when people ask me about staying focused while tackling multiple workloads. Oftentimes as creatives we spend time trying to do everything at once – we like to think that our creativity means we can and should be multitasking mavens. But have you ever noticed that when you’re focusing on all the things, you end up getting none of the things to the place you’d like them to be?

You might have a side creative project, another outlet outside of work where your artistry lives, or maybe your 9-5 involves a mix of creativity and strategy. Whatever your situation may be, make the lines between each project or pursuit crystal-clear for yourself. And be all there. Whatever job you are doing or task you are working on, give your 100% focus to that activity and that activity alone. You can’t be in two places at once, literally or figuratively. And by trying, you’re not only producing a fraction of your highest-quality work – you’re constantly reminding yourself that you’re not doing something you “should” be doing. Give that laser-like creative focus you’ve been blessed with to everything you do, one task at a time…even if what you’ve got in front of you seems tedious or out of your happiness-zone. You’ll gain immense satisfaction from knowing you gave it your all – and you’ll have a full tank of creative juices just waiting to be used on your next adventure once the first one’s done.

• REMEBER YOUR THROUGH LINE. Your through line is the common theme in everything you love and the common goal in everything you do. For those of us creatives who have both a “typical” job and a creative endeavour (see cautionary note here about using the terms Day Job and Side Hustle), it can sometimes feel like only the latter is allowed to speak to who we are and why we’re here. Determine your through line here, then ask yourself how you can implement it in whatever work you’re doing. Once you find your through line, it’s easier to see that being a creative isn’t so much about what you do but why and how you do it.

Being a creative isn't so much about what you do but why and how you do it. Click To Tweet

• SEE YOUR VALUE. You, Little Ms. Creative, are an out-of-the-box, solutions-oriented person. But it can be tough to remember that when the daily grind takes over. Whether you’re stuck in traffic, returning phone calls, filling out spreadsheets, or following rules to a T, sometimes it can seem like the working world is not set up to be all that kind to creative types like you.

What you’re forgetting is what an asset you are to your peers and colleagues. While facts and procedures are important, there is nothing more valuable that someone who can look at the big picture and offer up creative, innovative solutions or alternatives that transcend the day-to-day. Make it a goal to look at the day not as an obstacle you need to overcome, but an experience you get to shape simply by being you.

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Oversharers Anonymous: A PSA On Sharing Publicly.

Oversharers Anonymous: A PSA On Sharing Publicly.

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Ever have those moments where you just can’t seem to squeeze any creativity out of yourself? That was me this weekend.

Whenever I tell people I’m a “writer,” images of scribbling away old school style inside a Moleskin journal with La Vie En Rose playing softly in the background whilst gazing wistfully out the window start to fill their heads. 

Yes, I am beyond grateful that this is something I can actually do for work. I love deriving meaning from the mundane and symbols from stories. And yes, that image of 40s jazz music playing softly in the background is usually true (well, jazz or Royksopp if we’re being honest here). I’m a very lucky gal. That’s not lost on me.

But when I’m staring out the window, it’s not because I’m looking at any one thing in particular. It’s more that I’m getting overwhelmed by my thoughts and trying hard to thread them together. And although I’ve got my Moleskins for personal musings, it’s a blank computer screen that’s usually in my lap, and it’s usually growling and nagging at me to FILL ME UP, LAZYASS! instead of softly beckoning me to scribble away.

It’s this exact point that the Impostor Syndrome goblins starts to claw at my window and I need to do everything in my power to not let them obstruct my view. Because whenever they do, that creativity squeezing starts. And whenever they do, I end up searching for answers.

I end up staring out that window for way longer than intended – because I know that if I take the easy route and Scotch-Tape together whatever Impostor-Syndrome conclusions I draw and press “POST,” I’ll regret what I’ve shared.


With each app release and Facebook redesign, we’re becoming more and more tolerant of “over-sharing.” Not immune, but the line between average sharing and over-sharing is becoming increasingly blurred. If I don’t think it’s too much, than no one else will, either, right? We all want in on the action, “the action” being the idea that we’re all out there doing monumental things on a minute-by-minute basis.

Social media – whether it’s Instagram, Tumblr, or good old blogs – are self-curated highlight reels. Too much focus on anyone else’s highlight reel, and that’s when the problem starts: we begin to manufacture our own.

In the best light, this could be seen as intense gratitude for the micro moments. However, my hunch is that’s not the case. We’re pack animals. We don’t like the idea of being left behind. And so, whether it’s a conscious or unconscious choice, we throw our voice into the mix and we put our moments into the pile, all as if to say that Yes, we’re worthwhile; Yes, we matter too.

Oh, and that’s in addition to the fact that the entire internet is basically feasting on our opinions, hungry to feed its algorithms so it can become smarter, faster, and more adept at predicting what exactly we’ll say, buy, and do at any click. It’s set up to make us want to share.

In this type of climate, it begs the questions: How do we choose what to share, and what to share mindfully? How do we make the distinction – especially when we’re all surrounded by so much noise telling us to LIKE, POST, and SHARE the day away?


I’m a pretty open book, both on WANT and IRL – but I’ve set some ground rules for myself along the way. I ask myself five specific questions whenever I’m faced with the decision to share or not share, post or not post – even talk or not talk.


1) Is it personal, but not intimate?

Every week, without fail, I’ll write something and I’m asked how I do it. How I share so much of myself, get vulnerable, put my life out there so openly. Let me be clear, though: my life isn’t out there. Yes, I’m transparent and yes, I share a lot. But I don’t share everything.

When it comes to moments I share, either on WANT or on social media, I only post what is personal – never what is intimate.

What’s the difference?

“Personal” means having to do with who and how I am in my everyday life, not some veneer I’m putting on to fit someone else’s standards.

“Intimate,” however, means those things that I hold closest to my heart, that happen behind closed doors so to speak, or details behind the personal instances of my life.

When we think of intimacy, a lot of us jump to anything sexual – but intimacy is far more than that. To me, things that are “intimate” include details about my relationships: family, friends, romantic, my own deepest current struggles (more on that later). I talk about these relationships publicly in a personal way, but I would never share anything that defies that sacred closeness of intimacy – from details of a conversation to details of a fight to secrets confided to gestures meant just for the moment.

Example: Besides the occasional mention in a post or on the podcast and a photo here and there, there are actually very few mentions and details about my relationship on the internet. To me, that’s a non-negotiable “intimate.” Who I am out in the world is definitely directly affected by my person, but who we are as a team is reserved just for me and my closest circle, or even just me and him.

An important note is that my barometer of what is personal and what is intimate is always changing. You don’t need to strictly adhere to whatever your definitions of “personal” and “intimate” are. But know your lines and know your limits. And whatever they are in the moment, respect them – because respecting them means respecting yourself.

2) Is this my story to tell?

We’re all subjective: we only know our own experience of the world around us. And so when it comes to talking about someone else, I’m always very careful to share only my OWN perspective. Not just because I can only share my own perspective – but also because I don’t know where other people’s boundaries lie.

Even if I’ve been let in on some piece of information or nuanced detail, I know that everyone is not as open as I am, and definitely has a different perception of what is personal vs. intimate. To share even photos of people who don’t usually share publicly can seem like a violation to them. I have NO CLUE how someone else feels about their story being shared – so I only tell my own.

Bonus points: this also keeps me in check by not defining my own story by someone else’s. I am the only one responsible for my own truth.

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3) Is it promoting what I love instead of bashing what I don’t?

Whenever people ask me about how to build a community – whether it’s a friend circle, class, online platform or otherwise – I always tell them they MUST be intentional about the kinds of people they want to attract. Not in a “I’ll-put-it-out-in-the-universe-and-manifest-that-shit,” kind of way – in a “I’m-going-to-act-like-the-kind-of-person-I-want-in-my-life” kind of way. And for me, that starts with respect, kindness, and proactivity not reactivity.

It can be so easy to bash what we don’t like or use public forums to vent our frustrations. It makes us feel better to get it “out there,” even moreso to get validation from others. Yes, I feel this way too! No, don’t be silly! Even engaging in arguments can be a sort of cheap thrill, fighting your point over and over to constantly reinforce (in your own mind most of all) that Yes, I am correct, Yes, I’ve been wronged.

The problem with this is that you are what you put “out there.” Leaning on the crutches of your own victimization? You’ll attract folks who want to play the victim right alongside you. Defining yourself by your past mistakes instead of your future motivations? Welcome to Guilt Trippees Anonymous. Like attracts like, and while you might HOPE to ignite change and inspire action, the only way you can truly attract people interested in the same is if you lead by example.

This third point is a huge, huge reason why I started WANT and why it takes me forever to write content: I have made a pact with myself to be overly mindful of what I say and how I say it. If WANT is truly solution-oriented, then airing my dirty laundry in public not only goes against my entire identity, but creates community around it. If I am truly interested in change, then I must resist the temptation of the drama that going in circles around the status-quo creates. If I want to introduce positive, proactive women to one another, then I need to be that person first and foremost. I won’t be for everyone, but I will be for the people I want to attract into my life.

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4) Am I over the hump, or am I still in the work?

I remember becoming obsessed with anonymous message boards and online forums all about health and “wellness” advice – this was a decade ago, when I was at the peak of Orthorexia. I followed women who mirrored my way of life at the moment, who made me feel okay restricting certain food groups and counting macros like it was my destiny.

And then one blogger I followed came out saying she had a disorder. Then another. Then another.

The anonymous advice forums kept on going.

Slowly, ever so slowly, I realized we were all been keeping each other in a loop of sameness without even admitting to one another that we had problems. We were giving advice without ever having reached any sort of success ourselves. We were putting structure and steps to our disordered ways and unknowingly masquerading them as “progress.”

I am not in the position to offer advice or “words of wisdom” on things I haven’t yet worked through myself. The very last thing I would want is for some woman to read my work and take advice to heart that I cannot even stand by yet.

The second I stepped away from those forums and started to take advice from women who had actually succeeded in their journey of self-love was the moment I was able to shift into that space for real, too. Never, never, never again will I ever assign systems and solutions to something I can not take a step back from, look at from afar, and say, Yes, I’ve been there and am no longer tied to the circumstances of the event. I am no longer affected by what will happen, because I’m already way past the outcome.

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5) Is it focused on ME…or WE?

I’ll sometimes get a call from a family member (usually my mom, hi mom!) asking about something I’ve written. They pause. There’s worry in their voice. I can hear them raising their eyebrow all the way to the moon.

As I explain to them, just because I’ve written about something personal and tough doesn’t mean it’s bad or all-consuming. Exactly the opposite, actually. If it WAS bad or all-consuming, then I promise you, you wouldn’t be reading about it.

When I am writing about a personal experience, I always ask: is this simply self-serving, or does it serve a greater purpose? Am I venting right now, or is there a lesson in here for someone else?

I don’t know how to write anything without including some sort of personal story or experience. That’s just how I work. However, my goal is always to use the story as evidence to support a greater purpose. It’s not about me anymore. It’s about WE. It’s about US.

One important note: The secret to ME vs. WE is to not only be confident in everything you DO know, but just as confident in everything you DON’T. When we’re focused on ourselves, it can be tough to admit we’re not sure about something…so we pretend to know it all. We pretend to be experts. Mindful sharing – and connection, natch – comes when you can say Yes, I know what I know, Yes, I know what I don’t know, and YES, I stand behind my words as evidence to support a bigger, more inclusive lesson.

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What I realized during my creative block this weekend was that I was trying to finagle a story out of an experience I wasn’t yet over. My brain is currently preoccupied by thoughts of a huge impending life shift. I simply cannot write about how to work through that preoccupation from a truly informed, lesson-learned perspective. And I was trying to. But just because I don’t have the solution yet doesn’t mean I’m any less worthwhile or that I don’t matter too.

Sometimes we feel the need to have all the answers – to be able to speak on every experience with a firm opinion or a place of wisdom. I know I do.

It’s in those moments we’re most tempted to share; covering up the fact that maybe we’re on shakier ground than we’d like to admit, or aren’t quite as far up the staircase as we’d prefer to be.

But sometimes, the most important thing we can do is just live it all out. Not every experience has to be for everyone at every moment. Some moments are meant for us alone. No matter what those Like-Comment-Share buttons might want us to believe, to really BE in those moments instead of broadcasting them is not being selfish or guarded. It’s just. being. self. aware.

The words will come later, if they’re meant to come later. But for now? Close the laptop, turn up the jazz, stare out that window, and instead of trying to pry it open – allow your story to unlock at its own pace.

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These are my five rules – now I’d love to hear from you: Do you have similar ways to gauge what you do and don’t share publicly? What’s worked for you, and what hasn’t? Tell me in the comments, and let’s get this discussion going – the internet isn’t going away any time soon, and neither are ways to share ourselves. The more we help each other out, the more ways we’ll have to be able to share mindfully.